to not understand what the problem is?

[complainingcommuter]

A couple of weeks ago I went to a quiz with friends. We were in a larger group at the quiz with friends of friends, the event itself was organised by a club 2 of my friends are members of, so they knew most people there.

I like quizzes and am pretty good at them - I'm just lucky to have a memory for trivia. Sadly I don't find it anywhere near as easy to remember what my DC have on at school, or what I'm meant to be doing at home or work, as I do to tell you which monarch ruled 1702-14.

Anyway we all joined in with the quiz, I knew a fair few answers but by no means all. A few times others disagreed with my suggestion, and I went with the majority each time (some of the answers ended up being wrong). However we did win in the end, by a couple of points only.

During quiz, one friend keeps commenting on how i should 'let other people have a go, hahaha' although it really wasn't that funny. I corrected a couple of spellings (place/ people names) which were quite wrong, just by changing the spelling on our answer paper and had other friend saying that's nearly right isn't it, and when i said no, inferring i was bring difficult/ making a fuss/ putting other people down. On the night after we won friends said oh you won't be able to come next time as we did too well.

All that i was just like whatever, til today nearly 2 weeks on, friend texts that this person and that person was really annoyed my team had won and how they weren't happy at me coming back hahaha, and maybe i should answer less or dub myself down next time!

Which has now annoyed me all over again and left me thinking wtf?! Is it me and am i being completely humourless if this is all meant in a jokey way?

Daft 'friends'.
I'm a bit of a wierd geek who knows all sorts of random shit.

So my friends want me on their team and shove the answer paper my way to correct spellings before handing it in, and do a fair bit of "how tf do you know that?"
And then it's my turn to get the drinks during the music round. :)

A good quiz and quizmaster should make everyone feel they've had a good time whether they've been in the running to win or not. Questions where the teams can discuss them and think of a plausible guess even if they don't know the answer, and spot prizes where there's a questions for the whole room, everyone submits an answer, and nearest gets it (eg how many Tescos are there in the UK, or in what year did 90% of Brits finally have an indoor toilet).

I do know some people (almost all men) who aren't welcome at quizzes because they nitpick and argue with the quizmaster and stop it being so fun for everyone else. Quizmaster is always right. One place I worked had a standard question "how many legs does a spider have?" - the answer was six because the work handbook had a section about what to do about "spiders and other insects", therefore as long as we worked there, spiders were insects!

Well we apparently all hate experts now. According to Michael Gove anyway. Time to find a different quiz team who aren't so touchy.

You know I think women are expected to dumb themselves down, Just in case anyone feels a bit uncomfortable. If I had any advice for my younger self , it would be there's no need to be so reasonable all the time. Nice and small and manageable and reasonable, do that everyone else can feel complacent. It doesn't serve anyone.
Op, you sound self aware, with good social skills. Please go on being your clever self. Why should clever have so many may nick names? ( smart Alec, know it all) it's a good thing. If I went to pubs, or quizzes, I'd want to be on your team.

I'm the chair of our club and I'm also good at quizes. We have a quiz at the club twice a year to raise funds. I was on the winning side for the first couple of quizes.

I now try to arrange it so the chair's team comes a close second.

I remember a lot of useless crap and I'm good at quizzes but I never never do them because of this kind of stuff.

Treading on eggshells about whether to correct answers that you know are wrong, other teams getting massively shitty or accusing you of cheating when they don't win etc. makes the whole thing really not fun.

Quizzes just bring out the worst in people, I reckon.

Quizzes are for winning. I think our work pub quiz kitty has now got more money in it than the pension fund and it's only March, we're going to need an investment manager by Christmas if those total bastards from across the road keep to their schedule.

(Us and them only go every two weeks or so a month instead of every week because a) we then won't get banned for winning all the time and b) the other bastard team beats us sometimes so we have to try to avoid their weeks.)

Any way, what you did sounds like sensible winning tactics to me and I agree, they're getting in a huff because girls shouldn't show off our some bollocks.

If you are crap at quizzes - you can still contribute by thinking of the team name

That's a valuable role - I remember one person on our team who was so pleased when they got an obscure answer right. That was their job done.