School over riding dc's wishes so they can use me as a taxi service

[SquidgeyMidgey]

DD was chosen for a long-running after school activity off-site at another school. She really enjoys it and looks forward to it. Next week, on the same day, there is a one-off activity an hour in the other direction which she has also been chosen for. I sent back the letter for the second activity saying DD wouldn't be going as she chose option 1, which she did.

Tonight at pick up her class teacher came over and told me the school had called the first activity and agreed it would be ok for her to kiss it next week so she could do activity 2. I replied thanks, but she wants to do activity not activity 2. Teacher replies but that means the rest can't go as they won't have a lift (assuming I would cart the lot of them over to wherever activity 2 is). Other parents I was standing with were at the brass neck of the school to arrange for DD to go to activity 2 when I'd said she wanted to do activity 1. I'm not being U to not lift the lot over when it's not what she wants am I?

Something's missing here.

Might DD have been offered activity 2 when it transpired there were others interested, and accepted verbally without your knowledge? It sounds like this was a quick logistical fix by possibly well-meaning but clueless staff.

D/w DD before wading in.

OP has already clarified highinthesky-her DD prefers to go to the first activity, as do all of the other children, but the school is pushing activity 2 as it involves a prestigious prize. Sneaky and unprofessional of the school to try and push their own agenda.

That's appalling Op. The primary school my dcs attend does not allow parents to transport other people's kids. It's a shame but I respect them for doing things by the rule book and it makes me trust them more. The school I work in allows it and once I even had to accompany a pupil to an off site activity in a colleague's car. I really didn't feel comfortable and I plan on refusing if I'm asked again.

Cheeky beggars. I'd stick to guns and insist on activity one. School is taking the proverbial.

I wouldn't be happy bout them rearranging for my child.

My sons school Often gets parents to take kids to activities (for example cross county, cricket games arranged after school), basically if you tick the box saying you can't transport your child another parent will of ticked the box 'I can take my child and x others'. I don't expec them to tell me who my child will go with, just that a teacher will be there when they get there.

Sad what this school will stoop to just to get a 🏆. Doesn't speak well to the character of this school/Teacher.

((((((((Hugs)))))))))) OP.

Update Please ?

Sorry

Still no reply to my email to the HT however we parents communicated at length that night and all the children wanted to do activity 1 so we all told the school and they all went to activity 1. There was a 'sad face' announcement that the school couldn't get a team together for activity 2, and DD was leaned on by a girl who would have gone to 2 but not enrolled on 1, but DD stuck to her guns.

There was a 'sad face' announcement that the school couldn't get a team together for activity 2

How immature! Does the school have form for being PA and ridiculous like this?

and DD was leaned on by a girl who would have gone to 2 but not enrolled on 1, but DD stuck to her guns.

Of course I feel sorry for the girl, now she can't participate in either.

But that's no you or your DD's responsibility... What is this school doing/thinking? That's awful.

It's pretty much par for the course. It's a very 'driven' school and parents/children are to be directed at the drop of a hat.