To be irritated by comments about small baby

[Dontfencemein]

An acquaintance who has 3 children herself came up to me and DS (13 months) and said something along the lines of
"Wow. He is so tiny. He still looks like a baby. Usually when you don't see a baby for a while you think they'll have grown but your DS always looks like a baby".

AIBU to be quite irritated by this and wonder why she bloody said it?

DS has always been on the small side and lurked around the 9th centile. He's had a run of ill health in the last six weeks and has been in hospital for a few nights. Hopefully we are over it now but even without recent events, I think it's off to comment like that on a child's size.

Or am I being over sensitive?

[ImFuckingSpartacus]

Some people are so rude and set out to upset your day. Ignore people like this

They aren't and they don't. This is a MASSIVE over reaction, and its you people should ignore if you can;t handle small talk.

[EsmesBees]

I know how you feel. Mine was visibly small for her age as a baby and I often got comments about it, which I was overly sensitive about, especially as I was breastfeeding. I also got lots of 'she's so alert' comments which seemed to be code for her being restless and cranky. Looking back, I shouldn't have paid these comments any attention, people just want to say something and I don't think there was any malice in it.

[Sallystyle]

My son was teeny tiny.. he was severely underweight and I got comments all the time from people. An elderly lady once asked me if I knew I was meant to feed him.

He was in and out of hospital but it was just the way he was and still is at nearly 18.

My 2nd and 3rd were also very little. I am small and their father was 9 stone soaking wet.

The last two with my current husband were 7 and 8 pounds and they looked huge to me as I was so used to tiny ones :)

I loved that they looked like little babies for a long time, well not so much my first born because we worried about him hugely.

People make stupid comments. Sometimes to just make conversation and sometimes to be rude. Mostly I think most people just use the size of a baby as a conversation starter.

[PickledLilly]

It can be irritating, I agree. My daughter is tiny. She's just four but most if the two year old I know are bigger than her. People comment on it all the time 'isn't she TINY?!' They say to me in wonder and shock as all 5ft if me stands next to her. What, should I have had a giant baby? Of course she's bloody small! Lord knows where I'm going to find school uniform in September though, she's only in 2-3 clothes.

After four years of being told how very small my child is, it does get a wee bit grating. On the plus side, if I coach her not to speak I can still get her into all the local attractions for free as they all think she's under 3.

[ohidoliketobebesidethecoast]

When my DS was just 8 weeks I got this from a complete stranger in baby Change room: 'he's very fat, but you're not exactly slim yourself, are you?'.
An impressive double whammy! I was a size 12 at the time...
People seem to want to say something when they see a baby, even if they have nothing useful to impart - try not to take it personally!

[AnnabelC]

Often people try to fill a silence. Or they feel they have to say something. Or say what they are thinking and wish they hadn't. As I get older I wish often to put words back in my mouth. I never want to offend anyone. I can't be the only one!

[Deidre21]

Just ignore. As many have said there's always something that some feel the need to comment on. Some people don't think before they speak.

[itsonlysubterfuge]

My DD is small, people have guessed she was 2 when she is actually 4. It never bothered me. I think perhaps because your child has been having difficulties recently it is making you more sensitive to comments about his size. It's okay to be small .

[Eminado]

When my DS was just 8 weeks I got this from a complete stranger in baby Change room: 'he's very fat, but you're not exactly slim yourself, are you?'.

OMG!!!!
Wtf?!