To not open the door if I'm not expecting anyone?

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My friend and I were chatting yesterday and the subject turned to chuggers - she had had a bad experience with a rude one in town yesterday morning. While talking about the doorstepping ones I said something like "they don't really bother me, I only open the door if I'm expecting a visitor or a delivery". She seemed to think this was really odd and couldn't imagine not answering the doorbell.

I'm an introvert and a bit of a hermit once I'm in the house each evening. I don't have family nearby and the local friends I have wouldn't just drop in, so I don't feel as though I'm potentially missing out on a spontaneous pleasant visit. Anyone else feel the same or is my friend right and im an oddball who is BU?

(For the avoidance of doubt - this is semi-lighthearted; I didn't lie awake last night mulling over it but I thought it might be interesting to see if the world is divided into door openers and doorbell ignorers.)

I do always answer the door but only because it's guaranteed to be a delivery or pre planned visit... we are lucky that we never get chuggers, sellers, religious people... it's weird as it's a main road in a busy area! Also no-one pops in as everyone I know also hates popperinners.

Gerty - Your poor Mum! That's awful. I'm with you in the horrible death scenario. Maybe get a voodoo doll?

Bloody hell Gerty, your poor mum!

Geez Gerty.that's bloody awful!were they brought to justice?

YANBU but most of the times we do answer as we live at the end of a long drive way and if they've made the journey it's usually something important. The odd time it's someone we don't like/want to talk to we see them through the peephole and then crawl around on the floor so they can't see until they eventually leave.

The number of strangers knocking at my door went right down after I got my rescue german shepherd dog. If someone he doesn't know comes within a few feet of the door he growls, barks and howls till they go away.

Spooky! Was reading this thread and someone rang the doorbell. Couldn't decide whether to answer the door or carry on reading why I shouldn't answer the door! Lol. And it was. ......................the window cleaner, good job I answered!

I wouldn't dream of not answering the door and TBH it never even crossed my mind that people would actively ignore a knock or doorbell unless there was a serious (medical etc) reason!
To be fair, we live on an unlit road so never get sales-type people after dark so I would expect to see either a neighbour or local friend on my doorstep and would hate to leave them stood outside. I also don't mind unannounced visitors and often have people popping in for one reason or another.

I have no choice in answering the door. My kids always open it when they hear the doorbell.

I can't open the front door! Because are selling our house our EA has one set of keys and we are sharing one. Sometimes we don't work this out very well and I am left home alone with a back door key but no front door key.

In any case I don't open to the door to unsolicited callers.

We have a knocking pattern that we only share with friends and family. Anyone not using that pattern gets ignored.

No OP, YANBU!!!

Nobody has to open the door to anyone, no matter how annoyed or huffy people get about it, or how rude and obnoxious people think it is!

These people (IMO) sound like the exact type us introverted 'not answering the door to anyone' types hate, and dread coming around. You know, the type who just call unannounced and expect to be entertained and stay as long as they like... (Because you obviously have fuck-all else to do all day, and you're just sitting there waiting for them to turn up, to relieve you of your miserable existence of boredom and misery! )

I think just popping in on people is much more rude than someone not answering the door to an uninvited guest. Even my close FAMILY and friends have the courtesy to let me know when they're coming, and I do the same for them.

If I am not expecting a delivery, or a visitor, then I do not answer the door! No real reason other than I don't want to/can't be arsed/don't HAVE to. And fuck what anyone else thinks.

Do people get snarky about it on mumsnet then? People not wanting to answer the door if they're not expecting anyone?