Family sharing photos of baby

[redheadlady]

My dd is 18mo. Previously I've taken issue when one of my sisters shared an unfortunate pic of my dd with her friend who found it so hilarious she then printed it off and it ended up being put on my mum and dads fridge. The pic was a laughing at her not with her pic and I was upset about the thought of people beyond my circle seeing and laughing at them but actually having been sent a copy to do with as they please. Additionally when I send pics to my nearest family members I just don't expect them to forward them on. My Facebook /instagram are on private and though I share selected images on there I have control of who sees them.
This was last year but today my other sister has told me she's made contact with our cousins (who we last saw when they were toddlers!) and she said 'x & y love dd' she doesn't even know 100% that these genuinely are our cousins and even if they are we don't know them, or the people they know etc.... Aibu to be really upset about this? I hate the thought of images of my dd being passed on without my knowledge to people I know nothing about. (obvs I can't appreciate showing someone things on your phone when your with them etc - but to physically send them on??)

I put the occasional photograph of my DD on my (closed) Facebook account and I share them with family over WhatsApp. If a family member wants to re-post a photograph on social media, they ask me. I wouldn't mind one family member passing a photo to another, though.

Sorry to be harsh, but sharing photos on social media is just that: sharing. If you share photos with people, I think it's reasonable to expect that they will print them, forward them on, do whatever they want with them.

I don't think YABU - I don't have babies yet but myself and my h2b often discuss that when we do we are both in agreement that they wont feature on social media. If we make a decision not to post pictures of our baby online then I wouldn't expect anyone else to take it upon themselves to post pictures of our baby.

You are the parents and I can see that it would be quite hurtful to have people laughing at your child and its completely unreasonable to print a photo for their own amusement!

Xx

You do realise that once you upload or send a picture that that site or app has control of your image and facebook is a sod for messing with privacy settings. A few times now they have made changes and reset privacy to public, which you then have to change again.

My suggestion would be to only share pictures with family that you are happy for the wider world to see.

As for sharing with you possible cousins, are you bothered about then seeing/having photos because you don't want them to or because your worried they are paedophiles? Your desire to not have photos shared seems a little OTT to me.

YANBU. Yes, your child is not a possession but they are a minor and as their parent, it is YOU who is supposed to protect their privacy.