Ds, fund raising and the yummy mummy

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Ok so this is an AIBU on behalf of DS.

He is a third year student in central London. He is fund raising for Breast a Cancer Now. Yesterday he was at a central London tube station with a fund raising bucket, dressed in a charity t shirt, and underneath the t shirt and pink feather boa he was wearing a denim shirt and chinos.

Over the course of the two hours he raised over £200. I'm pleased, he is pleased and the charity is pleased. So why did the yummy mummy abuse him with foul language and end with telling him to get a job?

He is genuinely asking the question given no one else at all was quite so rude. He isnt bothered by the langauge, he isnt a precious snowflake, he genuinely would like suggestions as to why she might have been so rude. He fund raises regularly and has never been abused like this. Thanks in advance.

Lol @ Worra

Worra you missed out the important bit
'What trousers were you wearing dear?'

I am a 40 something mum from Scotland. I volunteer for Oxfam. I was in the shop yesterday arranging the shelves. I was wearing jeans, a pink shirt and brown ankle boots. During two hours on the till I probably took around £100. I'm pleased, the manager is pleased and the charity is delighted.

So why did an old man look at me funny?

I saw a lot of the Breast Cancer Now bucket collectors collecting at several tube stations yesterday. This was an organised campaign and will have been well planned with all the collectors having licenses. On St David's day it was the Marie Curie collectors out in London, with their yellow T-shirts and lovely daffodil hats.

There are strict rules for bucket collecting, they are not allowed to shake the bucket at people, stand in people's way, nor follow/walk with them for more than three steps. That is why they dress up, to get people's attention.

Your son did well to collect so much.

She could have been rude for a number of reasons, as others have pointed out.

But tinfoil are you a yummy mummy, an averagely attractive mummy or a really quite ugly mummy? Because if I don't have that information, I'm afraid I just can't help you with your question 😕.

Ooooh now you're asking, Vestibule. Probably a very average, slightly harassed looking one who hadn't had a coffee break at that point.

I am trying to work out what "The Yummy Mummy" could be an autocorrect for?

Whaaat?! MN is full of the "lets baby adult men" threads today, isn't it? Dammit. I nibbled.

Maybe she just hates People wearing pink,shaking a bucket in her face? Maybe she had the type of headache that feels as if your actual head is going to split in two. So the noise of £200 in loose change made her verbally snap...

Maybe the "get an F'ing job" comment was because he wasn't wearing shoes?

Some people hate the 'pink' aspect of breast cancer fundraising.

Some people hate over the top bucket waving and being guilted to donate not saying your son did this

Some people will mistake him for a chugger.

Some people hate big charities.

Some people are just mean.

Is that enough reasons?

Just answer the question you bunch of vipers

One of you know....

Breast a Cancer Now. Is that the Greek breast cancer charity I hear so much about?

Lois I think I could, if only I knew what colour socks the DS was wearing...................

His shoes.

It's always the shoes.

You don't have to thank me.

Or she was jealous of him

Maybe she was sick of people with charity buckets trying to stop her to talk while she is trying to push a buggy and control a tantruming toddler at the same time? They seem to love to chat to me when im in that situation

Or she read whatisname's book and was negging him.

Really he should be flattered

YABU. You say he's not a 'snowflake', yet his mother is on the internet to seek validation for him feeling mildly uncomfortable about a random comment.

Presumably she thinks he's a paid chugger being paid out of the collection, rather than a volunteer. It's shit to be doing something voluntarily and have people pulling you down for it. I'm a good person, volunteer loads, care for my kids and pay my taxes like most other people, and still get randoms occasionally giving me shit. Their reasons are complex and unknown, maybe even to themselves. He has to accept he'll never know, but he also doesn't deserve it and hasn't done anything wrong necessarily.

I'm surprised to hear reports of badly behaving collectors. I did a few hours for a big charity in a London station and we couldn't shake buckets or speak to people unless spoken to, it's very strict. Most people who spoke to me wanted directions to the toilet, platform x or the taxi rank.

Cancer is a horrible, horrible disease. I lost my dearest (at the time) family member to it. For a long time I could not look at the yellow daffodils or other fundraising paraphernalia as it was just all too raw.

Sometimes people get excited/swept along by fundraising and forget to be sensitive to the fact that these causes might be really, really sensitive to the people they encounter.

Why was your ds getting abuse about baby bags

Does he frequently not understand why the other people he meets may have a different emotional reaction to the one he expected? You might want to take him to a doctor or psychiatrist.

Maybe it was a trans activist objecting to non use of the word 'chest' cancer?

I love the negging theory! I will now tell myself that if ever a member of the opposite sex is remotely rude to me, they are negging me and will feel smug because of my utter gorgeousness.