About baby's surname on standard vaxx reminder letter?

[ControlGeek]

DH has form for making every little slight a premeditated personal attack, and I have form for not being able to see his pov, so please tell me was IBU?

DH and I married a month before dd(2 mths) was born. I hadn't got round to changing the hospital details to include my new surname so dd was referred to as Baby Geek on all the hospital docs. She was subesquently registered as Geekling MrGeek.

I have yet to update my surname change anywhere except the bank, never mind updating 'Baby Geek' to 'Baby MrGeek' at the hospital. She's a very hungry ebf baby who won't take a bottle and I struggle to keep on top of my own correspondence and that of my DF, who has dementia.

Today a vaxx reminder letter arrived addressed to Baby Geek and DH got very upset/annoyed that it didn't say Baby MrGeek. I felt it wasn't important as it was just a standard letter from the hospital and her surgery has her registered correctly. He huffed a bit and stropped that I wouldn't write or call to get it changed. I suggested he do it if it really meant that much, as I struggle to keep on top of the critical day to day stuff as it is. He won't.

WIBU to suggest that the name on the letter wasn't important? I suspect I possibly was here, as although it means nothing to me it clearly bothers DH - but would you be bothered to such an extent?

And WIBU to suggest he write/call himself?

He's now agreed to ring on Monday to get the details updated, but he's not happy that I don't place the same importance on it as he does. He has a lot of form for demonstrating a persecution complex a mile wide and I think that blinded me to seeing that there was a genuine cause behind his concern, which I only realised in posting and reading the responses.

I'm now being nicer about it, while standing firm that he needs to make the call to help me out and not be huffy that I didn't immediately jump to do it

Double donor child or not he is just as capable as you are of ringing the number on the letter and highlighting the error

If it is/was that important to him, he can do the legwork on it himself (assuming he's legally able to, and it's not something only the person with the original name can do).

As an aside, I'm completely agog that a red (healthcare?) book holds more sway than a legally recognised birth certificate as a form of identification!