To want to have a clean kitchen for the morning

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In our house, in general one person cooks and the other cleans up (or sometimes I'll do both so the washing up gets done that night)

DH likes to leave it to the morning to do, but since I always do the get up with our toddlers, AIBU to ask / expect him to do it on that night?

He's a d'ck about it if I ask. Drives me mad (I know I'm a tidy freak but is it too much to ask?)

Yes always tidy kitchen at night and put dw on

Nothing worse then coming down in morning and kitchen a state

I can't relax until the kitchen is clean, I like all washing up done and a tidy kitchen before I sit down. Luckily Dh is the same, one washes/wipes sides the other dries and puts away. I love walking out of the kitchen knowing it's all done and I can settle down for the evening.

Leaving it until morning is gross, IMO. So you have to get up with the kids and walk into the kitchen smelling of chicken curry and pans and plates everywhere? Yuk, that's student housing, haha.
I used to leave mine until after we'd eaten but my DH is a clean freak and washes while cooking so leaves just the plates to do after we've eaten and it's so much better

Yabu

I would rather do it in the morning, so that's when I do it.

I do the cooking and shopping. I can often make a hell of a a mess and use a lot of pits and pans...

DW hates cooking. I am grateful she cleans the kitchen She is grateful I cook. I don't worry about when cleaning gets done.

If there are enough clean dishes available for breakfast then I think you can allow a full grown adult to choose when they do their chores.

Imagine if a woman came on here and said dh goes on and on about me unless I clean the kitchen at night when I'm knackered after a long day and just want a rest.

No one ever died of the dishes sitting over night and despite how we as women are conditioned there is no moral superiority in having to have them done before bed.

It's not about moral superiority RJ, it's just cleaning up after yourself. It's akin to getting up in the morning and the tv is still on and the toys are all still out all over the floor and there's last nights snack packets all over the coffee table...or leaving the bath water and bath toys in the bath until the following day. Plus, it makes the kitchen stink of old food and the dishes harder to clean.
Of course it isn't morally superior, same as making your bed before you get into it in the evening isn't or taking your makeup and clothes off after a night on the town...most of us have woken up in clubbing gear and caked in smudgy makeup, doesn't mean someone is BU to not want this to happen every day

YANBU! I hate a messy kitchen in the mornings, especially on a work day. Last week DD(15) made pasta and the amount of pots, pans & tubs she used was unreal - just for bloody tuna mayo pasta for lunch next day!
I was furious because when I get up with DS I like a brew and to come round a bit...there wasn't even space on our worktop to put a cup!
Then, as she had escaped to school early, I couldn't get her to clean it up so I had to do it - So, no boyfriend over for dinner that day and she had to do all the washing up after dinner, hoover the lounge and do other shitty chores after school as punishment im not evil I promise I just like a clean kitchen

I tend to leave the dishes until the morning. I'm tired in the evening and have more energy in the morning. I don't leave the kitchen in a tip though: dirty plates etc are in the dishwasher, sauce bottles etc are put away, it's just the pans and other things that aren't going in the dishwasher that are left to soak overnight.

I agree with you OP. I like the kitchen to be tidy before sitting down in the evening and will quickly was up any cups or plates that have been used after dinner before I go to bed. There is nothing worse than coming down to a mess and the smell of yesterdays food.

Ugh! I hate coming down to a messy kitchen. I kick myself if I ever forget (like last night ) to switch the dishwasher on so the dishes aren't clean when I get up. Even if there are other clean dishes and the rest of the kitchen is clean. I like everything back to "zero" I empty the bin every night too even if it isn't full just so it's a clean bag in the morning.

YADNBU
JUST keep going on at him until he gets the message. Worked for me.

Yanbu I hate coming down to a mess. My house was spotless when I went to bed last night I've come down and it looks like a tornado has been through it. In fairness though dp has got up with the kids so I can have a lie in and taken them all out for the morning and is taking them for lunch. I suppose a few clothes and dishes aren't that bigger deal.

Although I prefer to come down to a tidy kitchen I think as long as he does them eventually and it's not a plan to make OP do them in the morning it's not that much of a problem.
As I cook I wash up most pots and pans and all of us scrape and rinse our plates etc after eating even the little children and load into the dishwasher. Even when it was broken we rinse all the dishes and neatly stack them so there's minimum mess and no dried on food/stale smells.

I'm one of nature's larks, so I prefer to chill after dinner and clear up in the morning, while my tea is brewing and the toast is on.

Even if DP cleans up after dinner, he does such a crap job that I still have plenty to do in the morning.

We don't have any kids at home though, so I have the place to myself until he gets up. I might feel differently if I had to get breakfast etc for little ones.

I like a clean kitchen for the evening, never mind the morning!

Seriously in my house everything gets tidied up straight after dinner.

I can't stand walking into the kitchen at 9pm for example and seeing it messy.

Equally, cleaning dishes/pans that food have congealed on overnight is just gross (and harder work).

YANBU. If you have to clean up to start the next day then he isnt doing the task.

it's just the pans and other things that aren't going in the dishwasher that are left to soak overnight.

Why buy pans that can't go on the dw? 😂

Everything goes in ours

Thanks everyone! Glad to know it's not just me!

I'm up with the toddler as I'm an early riser as opposed to it being expected

Yanbu to like the kitchen your way but when you live with someone else you need to compromise.

I am not bothered by an untidy kitchen in the morning at all. We eat very late and go to bed even later, neither of us is inclined to do all the washing up at 10pm.

Our dishwasher goes on more or less every day and pots and pans don't hang around for long. I couldn't bear to live with someone who insisted on the kitchen being left perfect every night.

When ours were wee, we used to put them to bed then clear up together. Good time to have a chat over the dishes. I could wipe down properly then.

Yanbu. Leaving dishes overnight is lazy and minging. It only takes 5 mins.

I'm the same, DH will do things when he feels like it, not when I need help or would like them doing. 90% of the time that is fine but sometimes I just want to scream because I want it tidy! ... And breathe.