Friend cancelling

[PixiePlunge]

My friend and I have a spa day booked (yes I know how they are viewed on here but we both wanted to go ). This has been booked for 7 months.

She then texts me today to say she's now unable to make it as she's decided to go on holiday.

I've paid for the whole thing so whether she'll pay me back I'm not sure.

The fact is, she didn't even apologise when cancelling. Aibu to think this is rude and inconsiderate?

Yanbu how rude I'm sure spa won't mind you changing the person you take just explain situation to them. Make sure not to pay up front for this "friend" again

How bloody rude!!

No I don't think that but I think they sometimes ask for a debit card to open a tab for each person when you have a drink etc

and you think they will kick you both out if they spot that one of you is using a debit card with a different name to the one on the booking?

Really? You think that a - they have that much attention to detail and b - you can't think of a way round this should it happen? Like just using your card, and getting your other friend to pay you direct.

Rood. V rood.
Text her and ask for the money.
G'wan.

Very rude. Wouldn't bother with her again. Take someone else.

I'd reply "Cool! I thought a spa day would be nice but a holiday is even better! Thanks! How much do I owe you for the booking?"

Text her back and say that you need her share of the money and how would she like to get it to you.

She's being totally unreasonable unless the holiday is for a close relatives wedding or something equally important.

Tbh, if it is a "real, proper holiday", e.g. two weeks abroad, and there is a reason why this is the best time (family/work commitments, financial reasons etc.), then you can't expect your friend not to go because of a spa day. However, it was rude to text you and not to offer to pay her share or try to find some other solution.

Tbh, if it is a "real, proper holiday", e.g. two weeks abroad, and there is a reason why this is the best time (family/work commitments, financial reasons etc.), then you can't expect your friend not to go because of a spa day. However, it was rude to text you and not to offer to pay her share or try to find some other solution.

If that's what she's decided then fine but surely the decent thing would be to just say sorry?
If I let a friend down, whatever the reason I'd always apologise.

I need a spa day....

Do not let the money go. Remind her it's non refundable and she will need to pay you anyway. And don't book anything with her again. Certainly not without her being the one who pays up front.

Agree 100% with HecateAntaia - ask for the money and let you know that if you find someone else to go with you, she'll get it back from them (or what they're prepared to pay).

If she refuses, then there's you future path with that friendship mapped right out in front of you....

Yes, seek the money back.