People who cancel for no real reason.....

[Vagabond]

Are people just flaky these days or do commitments not matter to anyone anymore?

I organised a bbq last weekend and made a huge effort with food and prep etc... Had 4 couples coming and 2 cancelled on the morning. 1 couple because they were hungover "we'd stink you out" and another for an undisclosed reason.

My thoughts on this are that people who don't host or organise things, seem happy to cancel.

I went to a party last Sat that was organised by a group FB invite thing. 35 people said they were going. On the day.... about 20 had cancelled. It's just shit.
Don't cancel. make an effort!

Who are these delicate souls who can't go to a social event with a hangover? If it was open heart surgery or a big work presentation I could see the problem, but who's too hungover to go and have a chat at a mate's house? Unless of course you have a much bigger drinking problem than you admit to.

IonaNE
"I only accept "one-to-one" meetings with friends with the caveat that I might pull out at any time."
Speaking personally I wouldn't want to be friends with someone on this basis.

"Might have seemed flaky to the organiser but I genuinely do not have £15+ for a night out."

I'd rather a friend told the truth and I'd either lend the money or pay for her drinks.

"Who are these delicate souls who can't go to a social event with a hangover?"

I probably wouldn't if I had a bad hangover, but then if I knew I had a bbq on Saturday night I wouldn't get so drunk on Friday evening that I'd still be hungover by the next evening so I still judge that couple for bad organisation.

"Can you always predict how hungover you'll be the next day while drinking?"

Yes, actually. You know by how drunk you're getting if it's going to be a bit of a nauseous feeling in the morning or feeling really bad all day.

Totally get it.

Flaky people think that their time/feelings is more important than yours. Good manners means going ahead with plans you've accepted even if something else has come up you'd rather do or you just can't be bothered. Unfortunately I think many people put their own feelings first.

Christ it's a barbeque, not the invasion of Normandy.

Let it go.

"I only accept "one-to-one" meetings with friends with the caveat
that I might pull out at any time."
Speaking personally I wouldn't want to be friends with someone
on this basis.
Butterymuffin, this is not the basis of my friendships: that goes much deeper. Never have lacked friends either.

Good manners means going ahead with plans you've accepted even if something else has come up you'd rather do or you just can't be bothered
Years ago I saw a book titled something like: "The Science of Ruining Your Own Life". It had things like "go to the toilet in your friends' house and, while there, think about what they can hear of what you're doing". . The above might have been in it, too.