To think this is really weird?

[yaela123]

A not-very-close childless friend has been excitedly telling everyone that they are going to start TTC soon. Like she's already pregnant

AIBU to think this is really odd or is it just what's done nowadays?

When you've had a previous m/c you keep it quiet (apart from close family and friends in my case) because it's bad enough explaining to those few people that it's gone wrong, without every Tom, Dick and Harry you've ever met inadvertently reminding you of it as well.
Can't see why that's difficult to understand Bertrand. I barely even let myself believe it, tbh,

so is she a friend or just someone you have only met a couple of times?

I am Facebook 'friends' with someone who posted that her partner had agreed they'd start trying for a baby next year. She puts everything on Facebook though. I have unfollowed her as it pisses me off.

It's like shouting "me and do are going to be having lots and lots of sex and I will lay with my legs in the air for half an hour afterwards". I told very close friends we were trying if it suited the conversation.

I told my friends but we were/are very close and I was a bit of a party girl so it would have been odd that I suddenly wasn't drinking/attending big nights that would be boring without booze.

In addition, DP wanted kids before I did so this was a discussion I had with friends about whether I was ready and whatnot. When I did get excited to have a baby I wanted to share my excitement with those closest to me.

That said, I was very naive and not prepared for the 2+ years of TTC. Thank goodness we didn't tell our actual families. No way I could have gone through 2 years of them asking every week. DM kept asking anyway, even though I'd never shown any interest in having kids around her and asked her not to ask me.

I understand if this woman is just excited and naive. I don't think it's weird. I think it's nice. I'd imagine she's not even considering the mechanics and thinking in a month or two she'll be having her pregnancy fussed over.

Also I don't get why people are focusing on the sex. It can generally be assumed couples have sex regardless of whether they're ttc or not. Announcing ttc is just announcing they think babies are nice and they'd like one. The correct response is something along the lines of, "yeah babies are pretty nice actually".

It's not a new thing some people have always done this. It's not for me but good luck to them

Absolutely egotistic imo.

DH told a few friends and family (before I had a chance to tell him not to) and it was a nightmare. We had fertility problems, and DM/friends would call regularly to ask if I was pregnant yet. It made the whole thing even more depressing. In the end I backtracked and told them we had decided to put off TTC just to get them off my case.

I know that's why people keep it secret-crap phrasing. I just don't understand why you would

Because it's a private matter that I don't want to discuss with people. I don't want to be forced to speak about losing my baby unless I want to. I don't want people to know we are trying, and ask me questions or wondering if "I am pregnant yet" every time they see me.
Because of the high risk of another miscarriage, I don't wan't to be overly excited and think about it too much.

I just think it's a very personal subject and prefer keeping it private. I share a lot of silly things on social media, I will probably post (and moan) about having a cold on facebook, but the very private stuff I don't share with the world.

I don't see the problem with this. They have decided now is the right time to start trying to have a baby and she is excited about it.

If you are in a relationship it's assumed you are having sex - why the need to remind other people??
Nobody cares!!
When you are pregnant then tell them!!

A colleague was telling me recently about how her DiL was giving her all the gory details about this, right down to the night they planned to DTD. She felt it was definitely TMI.