To let a 14 year old watch a 15 rated movie?

[MsGameandWatch]

DS - superhero fanatic. Wants to watch Deadpool and Logan. I've held off but I was letting him watch the Avengers and other superhero movies at age 11, which he has reminded me of repeatedly. Just seems a big leap in levels of violence etc.

Other reasons? Do you keep him in a cage or have a private detective watching him 24/7!!

It's all about the individual child and their level of maturity/behaviour. I let my 13 year old watch 15s. I do try to check common sense media prior though just in case. He saw Deadpool at a friends house though (which is just one of those things - he knows he can't watch 18's or play 18 games, that would be a flat no - but I trust him to make a judgement call on things like that, he did, he told me and we're all fine!).

You've seen (one of the) film(s), you know your DS better than anyone else and you've said he's not going against your decision. Why ask the question?

No he has high functioning autism and is too anxious to leave the house without a trusted adult.

Everyone else just seems to be discussing it pleasantly and giving their own views on it, which is what I asked for. A few people seem to agree that Deadpool is a bit of an exception to the rule, which is what I thought too. Another has said that Logan is a 16 in their country, worth knowing I think. A review I read said that the violent scenes in Logan reminded them of Deadpool so I started the thread to ask for opinions. Can you see why it might be worth giving it some thought? If not and you find the discussion pointless I suppose you could just not post instead of being snide couldn't you?

The constructive advice would be, as you know your DS, go and watch Logan on your own first. As people have said it's a long way from the usual Marvel stuff and only you know how your DS will react to it.

I apologise, my comment was lighthearted based on the information you had provided so far.

I think the fact he has autism (which you hadn't mentioned previously) would be a massive factor in any decision that you make on this. Asking for opinions without mentioning that makes any answer invalid as we would all be answering presuming that the child was NT and would have a standard level of independence based on our experiences of that age group.

My nephew has Aspergers and a choice about what he would be allowed to do watch etc would be different to his younger brother for example because his emotional reaction to certain things will be different.

With all that in mind only you know how he would react or you could ask the opinion of more experienced parents of children with autism on the SN boards or mention it (because it is relevant) in your OP or title? I am not trying to be exclusive in any way but if his autism affects his ability to be independent and he suffers from anxiety related to it, then asking this question but not mentioning that means you won't get the right answers. Or you will be misunderstood to be being overly protective rather than understandably protective under the circumstances.

After watching Deadpool I texted DS1 to tell him he wasn't old enough to watch it...He's 22, lives in London and had already seen it but I'm still right.

We watch films first before deciding on what we think is appropriate for DS2 to watch and always watch with him. Unfortunately not all parents do this and are quite happy to let your child watch anything while at their house. Grrrr
I would never take kids to the cinema if they are under age as it is not fair to risk the job of the person that lets you in.

Asking for opinions without mentioning that makes any answer invalid as we would all be answering presuming that the child was NT and would have a standard level of independence based on our experiences of that age group.

I don't really agree with this as his anxieties manifest in dealing with strangers and every day interactions. He is very, almost painfully mature in other ways, thought processes etc. I have no concerns whatsoever in how he would understand and deal with the content as far as creating anxiety is concerned. It's REAL people he struggles with. My main questions were for these two particular movies which having researched I felt were pushing the 15 boundary and it seems quite a few agree. I wanted to give a generic title to the thread but with hindsight I maybe should have said would you let your 14 year old see Deadpool or Logan?

Depends on the child surely. Some 12 years could watch Deadpool no problem, while some 18 year olds might watch then try to copy the massacres.

Deadpool was amazing Reow Exactly what the fans needed after waiting so long!

I haven't seen Logan yet but Deadpool involves a hell of a lot of kinky sex so he's probably not going to want to watch it around you at least! I think it should have been an 18 though just for the kinky sex montage.

I let our 12-year-olds watch 15 rated movies sometimes. Deadpool is a 'no', though (as was Suicide Squad). I don't know Logan, but a brief look at the parents' guide on IMDb suggests it would also be a 'nope' here.

Logan?
Didn't realise that was a 15. That's going to upset DS who was looking forward to watching it.

If he was going to watch them at the cinema, surely it's a case of can he even get in without id ? Our local, small friendly cinema wouldn't challenge DD if she went to see a 15 with me. The big chain nearby expects photo id for anyone who looks suspiciously young for 15s and 12As.

My DD2 is 14 and has seen both. They are both R rated under the US system so there is parental discretion. Logan is by far the more disturbing of the two, very dark a d violent. That said it also tackles idsues of ageing, mortality, morality and human frailty. These are topics worthy of tackling as a family. We lost my dad due to dementia last year so finding a film that brings the issue out into the open for discussion was really good for her. I think you have to act on a case by case basis.

I'm a huge X-Men fan but would never be able to handle Logan. The subject matter is too sad for me even as an adult.

I remember seeing 18's when i was 8 or 9 round my friends house whose parents weren't home and would leave her home alone to do as she liked. My parents didn't know, they wouldn't have allowed it, 12's yes, but not 15 especially not 18. I was allowed by them to watch 15's a few years early if they knew what the content was, and i was watching 18s by the time i was 15. I've always loved horror films and not been frightened by them though, was always mature for my age, understood the difference between reality and tv/movies, and it was a decision they were happy with based on me as an individual not an age. I have seen deadpool, it's a bit risque but in a humourous way, and i think it would be dependent on your son himself, some 14 year olds would be mature enough, others wouldn't.

We have allowed Dd to watch some 15s from being about 12/13 cusp. But it was always dependent on which film. She is 14 now (almost 15) and watches 15s without us vetting them tbh, though many she watches with DH as they enjoy similar films. We don't allow her to watch 18s though.

We used to look at the parental guidance reviews on IMBd website plus also on commonsensemedia and rottentomatoes.

Astoria Logan is very emotional. But it's excellent, I feel it's the best film out of the whole X-men franchise. In part because it doesn't shy away from brutality, but also because of the way the characters are allowed to shine. Patrick Stewart is particularly stunning. Watching him portray such a painfully accurate picture of a man in the grip of dementia was difficult for all of us to watch, but it was beautifully done.

With Deadpool, DH objected to all the swearing - he's since got less pearly clutchy about it. I was prepared to be worried about the prolonged sex scene in the beginning, but it was so clear that it was loving and consensual that it was really not an issue at all. But then I'm Dutch.