(Trigger warning) if your sibling tried to commit suicide

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Would you allow them to stay at yours?

This happened to me. Last year.

I tried to kill myself on a Tuesday and then I stayed at my sisters on the Thursday. I asked to stay on the Saturday too and got met with ...

"Well you can but ... dd has a party to go to that day so we're really busy"

Yes I get her own family take priority, I really do. But over a year later it still really hurts.

Aibu genuinely? Do I need to get over it? Am I selfish?

She only knew I was struggling because our dm told her. She rarely made the time for me before or after

Then, whilst I understand why you might be hurt, I wonder why she was the person you sought support from, as opposed to your DM? You knew she wasn't likely to be supportive and you aren't close to. I don't mean that in an accusatory or rude way.

My DB and I are not close at all. Most of our contact is for our parents sake . I wish him well and will help out in small ways, but I really cannot get involved with the worst of the chaos and drama that surrounds his life. I cannot and will not engage with it on anything other than my terms/limitations. I do not expect anything from him in this regard either.

I think that you need to think about how holding onto this upset and resentment is going to impact on you. I don't think it is going to help you, so you need to either put it behind you and accept that your sister is not going to be someone you can rely on for support, or you have to talk it over with her. But beware the latter may not end up with any change on her part.

I went through addiction problems in my late teens. I once took a load of pills and alcohol and passed out on the phone to my sister.

This was over 20 years ago, I have resolved my issues, had a family and my life is very different.

My relationship with my sister has never been the same and she has never forgiven me

God, if my sister tried to kill herself I wouldn't leave her side for the decade!
(okay slight exaggeration but she's my closest friend and means more to me than anyone in the world (my kids included!) so keeping her safe and trying to help her would be my no 1 priority for as long as it took.)

I'm sorry you didn't get the support you needed. Are you close generally? How are things now?

If I had someone who was suicidal in my house, I'd want to be absolutely sure that my kids weren't going to see anything that may damage them.

May that have been a consideration for your sister?

I'm sorry you've had soup here a rough time OP and I hope you're feeling better now. I'm sure your sister meant no malice towards you