to expect DH to treat my nieces and nephews as family?

[ChippyMinton]

He seems to think that because they are my siblings children they are nothing to do with him. There are no nieces and nephews on his side, but plenty of cousins with children who he seems to take more interest in.

Not unreasonable I think
Does he see them a lot?

No, you are not being unreasonable.
He is their uncle!

No, not unreasonable. Do you take an interest in his cousins' children?

And pmsl laughing at the fictional characters posting on this thread!

He is their uncle and they are his family to. I don't understand this, my DH loves being an uncle.

Thanks everyone. He is their uncle isn't he? His view seems to be that only blood relatives are family. He is friendly enough but definately sees them as my family.

And yes, i do make the effort with his family, they are really lovely, and are, of course, important to my children

Maybe you should have them around more often. Sometimes I think it takes men a bit longer to bond.

I only have nieces and nephews on Dps side, we arent even married yet, but i couldnt love them anymore if they were my own blood.

We are all really close and his brother and sister are like my brother and sister too.

I have two nephews, both 2yos and younger than my children and I would say I love them both equally although one is the son of my sister and the other is the son of DH's sister. It is so nice being an Auntie.

I am equally inattentive to my nephews and nieces on both sides of our family. It's very egalitarian!

I’ll be honest I don’t take much interest in my dhs nephews. I’ll humour them if they are here but I don’t ask after them, or invite them around to play with our children.

I see them very much as dh’s side of the family in the same way as mil or sil that contact and what not is his to sort. As such is if we separated and divorced I’d never see them again so yeah.

Why do you keep replying to 15 year old threads?

Well if you've been together 2 years and they're in their late teens onwards, I don't think it's odd he'd not overly invested in these adults he's never really got to know. Been together twenty years and niblings are all in school or below, he'd less reasonable.

What form does his disinterest take? Not taking them out, spending time with them without you, not constantly asking about them etc or refusing to spend joint money, see them, be polite etc?

Oh god it’s another zombie. I had hoped mn had cleared them all up.

Jesus what is with the zombie apocalypse today?

This is the third thread I've seen that you've resurrected. How are you even finding them?

He’s not their uncle so you are being unreasonable.

I don’t love my husbands nieces and nephews, not even remotely. I mean don’t get me wrong I’m not unpleasant to them or anything but I only love my own nieces and nephews.

I agree with him, it's natural to feel closer to your own sibling's children.

How does this manifest? Does he just ignore them? Is he mean to them?

YABU

I agree with your husband.

Also, you say his nice enough.
Isin’t that pretty much all that is needed?
What do more do you want from him?
At the end of day, blood or not, family or not, they’re just somebody elses kids.
How much is he supposed to care about / do for them, and what?

ZOMBIE THREAD.

They won't even be children anymore.

Sorry gang, this is a zombie thread, we'll close it.