To be furious with dh.

[HappyHannah24]

My dd and ds and dss and dss2 went paint balling with dh yesterday and my son got shot in a rather sensitive area for boys.

My dh and dss didn't treat it seriously when my ds was in pain and instead started sniggering at him and telling him to man up. When they got home ds told me about it and his bits were swollen so I decided to take him to a and e and ds had a testicular torsion. This I'm told is extremely painful and serious ds could have lost his right testicle. We don't know if the tissue has been damaged or not.

I am furious aibu .

It may or may not have been caused by the injury (see below excerpt). Don't be too hard on your DH. Maybe he should have paid more attention when the pain didn't go away after 15 minutes or so but we all make mistakes.

The Mayo Clinic says:

"Testicular torsion occurs when the testicle rotates on the spermatic cord, which brings blood to the testicle from the abdomen. If the testicle rotates several times, blood flow to it can be entirely blocked, causing damage more quickly.

It's not clear why testicular torsion occurs. Most males who get testicular torsion have an inherited trait that allows the testicle to rotate freely inside the scrotum. This inherited condition often affects both testicles. But not every male with the trait will have testicular torsion.

Testicular torsion often occurs several hours after vigorous activity, a minor injury to the testicles or sleep. Cold temperature or rapid growth of the testicle during puberty also might play a role."

Were they sorry when they found out it was serious? I hope they apologised to him.

They haven't apologised to him. It may well of been lad banter but it's not funny when it is serious.

YABU. He's 17, not 7, and capable of seeking medical attention himself if he needs it. Being hit in the balls is always excruciating, so how were you expecting your husband to know this was something serious?

Yanbu. I hate when people laugh at other's suffering.

Would you be as upset if it was his son that got hit and your boy had laughed?

Your 'D'H sounds a complete dick tbh, there is nothing funny about what happened & he & his son laughing & telling him to man up is most certainly bullying.

the name happyhannah sounds familiar from similar posts in the past, you really do need to get yourself and your ds away from this man, so many people have told you in the past and are offering support on here,
even if you put up with the dicks crap it's not fair on your ds,

Have you posted before about your DH and step kids bullying your son.

At 17 I am not sure what you expect someone else to do rather than your son doing what he did.

Is DH the father of your son? If not, is this a little concern you have about less favourable treatment than your DSS?

To be honest, I would have probably sympathy laughed in that ouch-thats-got-to-hurt kind of way. Telling someone to man up is a very annoying sexist phrase though.

Also, the injury can take a while to fully show symptoms so unless you want field checks of all your 17 year old sons bits when they are injured there probably wasnt much more that can be done. If, when at home, they laughed at the swelling rather than being concerned, then that is being arsey.