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WIBU To Win Pass The Parcel at DS's Birthday Party?

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DioneTheDiabolist · 04/03/2017 21:03

I was in charge of the music. I told them I would. The parcel went round with all the children getting a little gift with every layer removed. It got smaller and smaller. They all had their gifts and only DS and I were left. I stopped the music. DS removed his layer of paper to find the same gift as the others. The looks on their faces!Shock

Anyway, I won!Grin It was a plushie and a referee whistle (thanks DP).Hmm

So was I unreasonable to win? I
don't think I was. My only regret was not recording their reactions.

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MiddleClassProblem · 04/03/2017 23:13

You rigged your own winning. No idea why you were playing in the first place. I don't think it matters if birthday kid wins or another so long as it's a kid!

I think you should do pass the larcel at your next adult party. I might nick that and rig my layer with a miniature gin

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DioneTheDiabolist · 05/03/2017 01:35

Kids winning is predictable.Grin Brilliant idea about the adult versionMiddle.Thanks

Just to assure people, I don't kick the chairs out from underneath children, I did not win out of spite or a desire to "win", no way would I ever have a smashy up thing in my house (it's tiny, there were loads of them). and DS and all his friends had a great time. I thought it was clear from my OP that I meant this to be a lighthearted thread.Blush

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Dixiestamp · 05/03/2017 02:03

I'm just Shock at 10 year olds playing pass the parcel- it's pretty much passé (no pun intended) by 7 here!

LolaTheDarkdestroyer · 05/03/2017 02:07

You won! What a prize twat you are. This is seriously strange.

HeartsTrumpDiamonds · 05/03/2017 02:11

Someone link the other thread, this is too weird.

OP you have an interesting sense of humour! Grin Shock

RiverdaleJughead · 05/03/2017 02:11

Why were you even playing ?

KoalaDownUnder · 05/03/2017 02:33

Oh, you are definitely spoken about behind your back in 'interesting' terms. Grin

StandardNameHere · 05/03/2017 03:11

You got a 'boost' from winning at pass the parcel? 😏
The whole thing sounds rather odd and sounds like you had more fun than the kids.

Raisinbrain · 05/03/2017 03:40

YABU and very odd
Surely on the last round of pass the parcel the person controlling the music turns their back so that it's down to chance?
Why were you even here playing? And yes playing pass the parcel at 10 years old is unusual.

dylsmimi · 05/03/2017 03:48

The 10 yr old thing doesn't confuse me as I think it's a fun game so why not let them play for as long as they want but
Adults don't join in with the pass the parcel once the children are old enough to open the panel themselves
Everyone, including birthday child, gets a small prize in each layer and then
Back is turned and a random child wins the main prize - and hopefully not the birthday child (we tell ds they won't be winning so would probably even say 'oh try again' if it stopped on him) they get presents from the party so don't win the pass the parcel or get a party bag
It's hard to know the context I guess so perhaps you have a more fun relationship with the children if you have known them a long time but I think I would be a bit Confused Hmm if ds came home and said the birthday Childs mum had won pass the parcel

Only1scoop · 05/03/2017 04:19

Yeah you're a very cool parent ....down with the kids marn....
Pass the parcel at 10 Grin

SparklyUnicornPoo · 05/03/2017 04:31

to win whilst playing against children yeah, a little bit unreasonable, however on DD's birthday she insisted the adults had their own game of pass the parcel and i won that.

Mummyamy123 · 05/03/2017 04:46

Sounds hilarious to be fair. I can absolutely imagine my mum threatening to do and then doing this to make the kids shocked!!
I imagine the OP wasn't seriously feeling competitive, just having a laugh with the kids.
Your party sounds lovely OP!!

HicDraconis · 05/03/2017 04:56

Awesome idea 😂 May have to nab it for DS2's next party (he will be 10 as well, it's one of the games that just keeps on being requested).

Will have to have DH in on it as he does the music, & will carefully select the final prize.... 😉

Given you had told them all you would win, you had to follow through with it! I might've done an "eyes shut whoever catches it wins" for the plushie, would totally keep the whistle!

angeldelightedme · 05/03/2017 08:19

I don't put a prize between each layer , just one big prize at the end and I do it all with back turned. That is the traditional wat to play it before kids got so emotionally fragile that everyone had to win

letsgomaths · 05/03/2017 08:49

Smile (Joining in the light hearted banter) Perhaps it's OP's revenge for not winning as a kid. Speaking for myself, I think I should have won pin the tail on the donkey every time; I always tried to sneak up and pin it before my eyes were covered, but every time the party mum stopped me in my tracks and told me I had to be blindfolded and spun round! Not fair. So now, I'm the only one who's allowed to see when I pin my tail, 'cos it's my party.

As for pass the parcel: just drop the act about the birthday child never winning, and for total transparency, get the birthday child to do the music for pass the parcel, so everyone knows they won't win, and blindfold them so they can't favour anybody. Wink

DontOpenDeadInside · 05/03/2017 08:55

When we play pass the parcel I make sure each kid wins a small prize then I go out of the room so the winner is totally random. It'd never even cross my mind to play never mind win.

HardcoreLadyType · 05/03/2017 08:59

When I was a child, there wasn't a prize in each layer. There was one prize in the middle, and it was always seen as a bit of a swiz if the birthday child won it.

By the time my DC were playing pass the parcel, there was a packet of sweets in each layer, and everyone knew they would get one, which meant that once they had theirs, they would often get up and run around, because they (probably correctly) assumed they wouldn't get anything else.

Butterymuffin · 05/03/2017 09:53

Weird. All of it.

MiddleClassProblem · 05/03/2017 10:36

I didn't fund he other thread that. As as they weren't holding the party, just joined in, other non party people playing too andmosyvof all they didn't rig their own victory.

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DioneTheDiabolist · 05/03/2017 13:42

This thread has indeed taken a very weird turn. You are definitely spoken about behind your back in "interesting" terms. Really?Confused

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KoalaDownUnder · 06/03/2017 03:10

Sorry, OP, I was being a bit of an arse. Apologies.

I actually think it would have been pretty funny, given the context.

(And pass the parcel is fine for 10-year-olds. They're 10, not 15.)

londonrach · 06/03/2017 06:44

Why are you playing?

jay55 · 06/03/2017 06:50

Why did you have more layers than kids?

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DioneTheDiabolist · 06/03/2017 21:26

I didn't think you were being an arse Koala, I thought you were just telling me that I was being spoken about behind my back. Is that true?

Jay, one of the guests cancelled as she had the vomitting bug.Sad

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