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AIBU, surely all pregnant women have these moments?

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SheNumpty · 04/03/2017 19:52

Whilst pregnant with my DD I found myself crying uncontrollably at the train station coming home from work one day because I couldn't see a single pigeon that had two fully formed feet. It was like the most desperately sad thing I could think of at the time.

My husband thought I was mental, could not wrap his head around how hormones could possibly make you like that (I was not normally reduced to tears by the malformed feet of sky rats).

IANBU I know, but could I please have your stories of hormonal madness so I can show him that it's not just me?

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FeliciaJollygoodfellow · 04/03/2017 22:31

I don't remember doing any of this and I'm afraid to ask DH in case he does Grin

I think I've cried more since having kids than in the 26 years pre-kids. Any hint of emotion and I can't keep it in.

GinFuel · 04/03/2017 22:32

Love this thread!
Worst day for me.... I entered a shop chatting away to DP and realised all the customers were stood still not making any noise. They all looked at us as we remembered the two minute silence. We stopped talking/walking to partake in the silence. I began to sob, tears landing on my huge belly, while DP was discreetly trying to shuffle away from me and pretend that he did not know me. Silence ended, I blew my nose, smiled at concerned onlookers and set off to reunite myself with DP.
On the way home from said shop I made DP pull over and suggested he might like to move the road kill we'd just driven past to the side of the road so it didn't get run over again. Of course I couldn't watch as he carried out the request so I waddled off up the road in tears while DP was stood wondering wtf he was supposed to do with a) the small dead deer smeared across the tarmac b) his nutty hormonal partner.

CosyCoupe88 · 04/03/2017 22:33

That pedigree chum advert... bad dog.. bad food ... bad something.... good food.. good home. .. good dog.Sad so many tears every single time even now 3 years on (but pregnant again haha)

SelfObsessionHoney · 04/03/2017 22:33

In my first trimester I got in a complete rage and threw my plate and sandwich on the floor as the sky box wouldn't load in the three nanoseconds I wanted it to load in. I don't think I've ever been so angry.
Oh and I sobbed my face off as 'Paul Blart: Mall Cop' finished, I hadn't even enjoyed the film but was somehow distraught that it had ended.

laurzj82 · 04/03/2017 22:38

These are great. GrinGrinGrin at Dorothy flying!

I had gestational diabetes and before I got put on medication and insulin I was trying and failing to keep my sugar levels down with my diet and I was seriously starving! Anyway, I'd been looking forward all day to have a ham sandwich. Went to make it and the ham was out of date. I did a dramatic back against the wall slide to the floor, sobbing my heart out. OH offered to go to the shop for me, cue more tears for him being so thoughtful. Asked if I wanted anything else to which I replied that I wanted lettuce. And then wailed "But not the curly onnnneeeeeee." Blush

Many many more!

Youallpissmeoff · 04/03/2017 22:38

I have a friend whose husband stopped her from watching Meerkat Manor because it upset her so much. She would cry all the way through!

I also remember driving around the car park if Sainsbury's in tears of pure anger because I couldn't find a space.

I think we all have those moments.

Imnotbeverley · 04/03/2017 22:43

When I wasn't pregnant with DS1, I asked DP for a bag of mini cheddars from the cupboard. He grabbed a bag and chucked it across to the room to me, I missed the catch and it hit me on the head. He laughed. I cried, accused him of ABUSE and refused to speak to him all evening.

Imnotbeverley · 04/03/2017 22:44

I obviously mean, "when I WAS pregnant". FFS

mrsw14 · 04/03/2017 22:45

I sobbed for an hour earlier because the bacon in my butty (which looked the perfect crispiness) just didn't taste crispy enough. Ruined my day Angry

OnTheUp13 · 04/03/2017 22:46

So so so so many!

The bath towel wouldn't fit round bump when I got out the shower to be fair I was 40 weeks

I was driving between two trucks? And erm I guess I didn't want to?

Because someone gave us their seat for me on a train

Because someone ate a banana on the same bus as me

Why are we TTC no2 again?!

SunshineAllTheWhile · 04/03/2017 22:51

Loving these so much. I'm currently 27 weeks pregnant & haven't yet managed to reach the dizzying heights of my previous pregnancy meltdowns; one highlight is the day we moved into our house (36 weeks pregnant) DH went to get us a chippy tea.

Excitedly pulled back the paper and my heart sank as I could see there was vinegar and salt on my chips. BUT WHY WOULD HE DO THAT TO ME? HE SHOULD KNOW I LIKE PLAIN CHIPS WITH HEINZ (only) KETCHUP? WHYYYYYYY? HE DOESNT EVEN KNOW ME AND IM ABOUT TO HAVE HIS CHILD. HE DOESNT EVEN CARE. And So. Many. Tears. Possibly shouting Blush

Needless to say, he had to go back to the chippy in the pouring rain for a fresh batch of virgin chips Blush

FeralBeryl · 04/03/2017 22:54

The parallel between this thread and all of our 'why is your toddler crying today?' threads is hilarious Grin they obviously start with their crazy in the womb!

Summerisdone · 04/03/2017 22:58

I sobbed uncontrollably at the Hannah Montana movie (actual gulping to get my breath back sobbing), where she reveals her identity and the little girl in the crowd yells her to put the wig back on and promises everyone will keep her secret Grin
I'd seen the film many times before then and never found it remotely sad so I still don't know why it got me so choked up that day

Summerisdone · 04/03/2017 23:02

Oh I also began crying in the middle of Ikea because I couldn't find my way out, I just sat down on a bed and cried like a little lost child until a member of staff came over and then took me out via some back stairs Blush

ZigAZigAhh · 04/03/2017 23:05

Another one I just remembered m - with DC1 I cried nearly every time I had a shower because all I could smell in the bathroom was garlic chicken. DH thought I had well and truly lost it.

PyongyangKipperbang · 05/03/2017 02:14

I had a friend that actually became so unbalanced during pregnancy that I'm surprised she didn't end up in trouble with the police for attacking someone. She was just so angry all the time. Post-birth she went back to being completely non-aggressive. It's actually put her off having more children and she feared for her mental health.*

I am wondering if I am the friend.

I have had 6 full term PGs and during my third I had a personality transplant. I was terrified. I knew I was being loud and shouty and angry and unreasonable, but I couldnt stop it. I remember one night where I sat crying and begging (then) DH to not leave me for being such a bitch, that I didnt mean the horrible things I was saying but that I really couldnt control myself. He really couldnt do anything right, nor could anyone in the whole world. I hated myself for the way I was, but I couldnt stop it. It was the first time I understood what an uncontrollable temper really was.

When we both knew we wanted DC#4, we talked about it based on how awful it had been during the previous pregnancy and agreed that the months of hell would be worth it for another child. It didnt happen. Very odd as we were both waiting for me to go Vesuvius, and yet it didnt happen.

But during PG3, I did genuinely feel that I was losing my mind and it was so frightening.

frillyknickers25 · 05/03/2017 06:56

I love this thread being 36 weeks and completely off my rocker at times.
Remembered another one. I was about 12 weeks.
My mum lives in another country. I called her on Skype. She was there with my niece (her granddaughter) and cooking dinner. My niece said she wanted a piece of bread and my mum said "Don't stuff yourself now or you won't have your dinner" in that tone of voice she'd use with me when I was a child. I finished the conversation and then started crying and howling repeating with tears and snot running down my face that "I want my Muuuuuuum!"

I'm 39.

DP ended up consoling me on the sofa for ages and then I booked plane tickets to go and see my Mum for a week because I wanted my Mum. Simple. The urge to be with her was overwhelming as was my appetite for her cooking. Grin

LilacSpatula · 05/03/2017 07:23

These are GOLD! I cried at Finding Nemo, it's actually a really sad and emotional story Blush

29redshoes · 05/03/2017 07:30

OP, I recently told one of my closest friends (pregnant with her first) that she was likely to have some "WTF have I done?" moments and I was wondering if I'd done the right thing... she looked a bit shocked. So thank you, I feel a bit better now!

When I was pregnant I cried when there were no seats left on the train and all the people would have to stand. When there wasn't enough room for some people to even get onto the train at all I was practically hysterical!

LilacSpatula · 05/03/2017 07:32

Claralane I sobbed to Plant Earth with the snakes and iguanas!

lalalalyra · 05/03/2017 07:35

With DD3 I switched between inconsolable wreck and seriously angry.

In MotoGP that year Marc Marquez was winning pretty much every race and after watching another win I got so angry I ranted for an hour, called him all sorts and was more angry than I've ever been in my life. My DH, DS1 and best friend still occasionally call him the 'greedy, selfish, fun-spoiling prick from cervera' now to wind me up.

Next race I cried for an hour because he said something nice about his grandfather and I felt awful that I'd been so horrible about such a nice boy. I spent £120 on merchandise at 3am because I felt so guilty. I was then inconsolable for hours on race day because his teammate won and now he couldn't win every race in the year.

I've been a fan of his teammate since 2007. I was probably the only one of his fans not ecstatic that day.

CluelessMummy · 05/03/2017 07:38

I once had a full meltdown because we ended up throwing out half a ready-roasted chicken and "this poor bird probably lived its life in a cage and has now died for NOTHING!" DH did a slow reverse out of the kitchen.

MetalMidget · 05/03/2017 07:38

I became a total wreck at adverts for the PDSA and Dogs Trust. My husband had to pause John Wick so I could compose myself (I kept on breaking down throughout the film thinking about the start).

It hasn't improved post-birth, seven months on and I'm still reduced to a blubbering wreck, only now by a much wider range of things. I think it's a heady combination of heightened empathy, hormones and sleep deprivation.

treaclesoda · 05/03/2017 07:40

I cried listening to Elgar on ClassicFM in the car because the music was just too beautiful. I had to pull over to calm down.

IThinkIMadeYouUpInsideMyHead · 05/03/2017 08:34

It's so reassuring to hear that lots of people experienced this!

I literally stopped traffic one day, I was weeping so hard. I had slipped and fallen (on my arse, not my bump) on a greasy footpath and I was convinced I had killed my baby. I was inconsolable and poor DH had no idea what to do, and then kind strangers were pulling up to see if they could help.

I also cried when my (usually horrible) boss was kind to me: I actually said "Please don't be nice to me or I'll cry" Hmm I used to be afraid to laugh, because that would inevitably lead to sobbing too Hmm

The other thing that happened to me was that I turned into a bit of a sex pest. I mean, I was desperate for it, every day, several times a day. Fortunately DH was happy to oblige.