I basically need some hand holding and/or help putting on my big girl pants before tackling this with excellent. In a nutshell, we separated 2.5 yes ago. He has never paid a penny, has only had them overnight 3 or 4 times, doesn't phone to speak to them or ask after them. Until December he was driving over to pick up from school 1 day a week but has now got rid of his car. This has meant that every Sunday I have had to drive them to his and then pick up later (he used to bring them home). This is an extra 120 miles a month for me, which is obviously costing me. So aibu to tell him I will only do this every other week? I try so hard to ensure dd's have a relationship with him and feel guilty but am just fed up with doing everything.