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AIBU?

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Think this is rude?

25 replies

Bellabooboo · 02/03/2017 23:06

Family member has just sent me a just giving link via Facebook to a charity event she is doing. No message, just the link. No "Would you sponsor me?"

She's been plugging it all week and i can't afford to donate at the moment so i haven't, I will when I get paid.

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Nocabbageinmyeye · 02/03/2017 23:07

Just say exactly what she said - nothing

pipsqueak25 · 02/03/2017 23:09

that's cheeky ! i wouldn't be rushing to do this even when i got paid tbh if this person can't ask in the proper manner.

Nocabbageinmyeye · 02/03/2017 23:10

Oh and yes sorry you are right it is rude, put it on fb by all means but if people want to donate they will, once is enough and no messages should be sent

JonesyAndTheSalad · 02/03/2017 23:12

Send her a message saying "What is this link please? I like to check before I click on anything"

If she apologises and explains, donate...if she does not....don't.

WorraLiberty · 02/03/2017 23:12

Yes that's very rude.

Why would you reward the rudeness by sponsoring them when you get paid?

I'd just ignore it.

BettyBaggins · 02/03/2017 23:15

I'm not sure I think it is that rude, she's just letting you know. It's fine not to donate too if you can't afford it but you could always share it on your wall to show your support.

llangennith · 02/03/2017 23:18

Ignore it.

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Bellabooboo · 02/03/2017 23:22

Seriously its been on every other bloody status the past week. Everyone knows she's doing it.

She's only been sponsored £20 so far, £5 of that from herself.

Its to give up chocolate for March.

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ImperialBlether · 02/03/2017 23:22

Look, if you have no money, then you need to use whatever you have to protect your family. Don't feel obliged to give anything to a charity.

ImperialBlether · 02/03/2017 23:23

If she gave all her chocolate money it would be much more than £5!

littlefrog3 · 02/03/2017 23:25

I would ignore. I hate beggars! Whether it's family doing a stupid sponsored walk, a kid from the neighbourhood doing a sponsored silence, a fucktard chuggar asking if I like animals, in some half arsed attempt to get me to give him my bank account details and name and address so some fatcat executive can have another BMW, or some twatty kid at the end of a checkout in Sainsbury's offering to pack your bag to help fund their ice hockey trip to Canada, or their 'educational' trip to Kenya! NO! FUCK OFF!

bloodyteenagers · 02/03/2017 23:28

She wants people to sponsor her to give up something for lent? Fuck that

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Bellabooboo · 02/03/2017 23:30

Just drives me mad that she thinks its ok to just send a link. No 'how are you? how are the kids? etc etc'. Just heres the link. Bham!

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PuddleJumper01 · 02/03/2017 23:31

Isn't giving something up for Lent supposed to be a spiritual thing????

Nocabbageinmyeye · 02/03/2017 23:32

Fuck off she is looking for sponsorship to give up chocolate??? That can't be true???

WorraLiberty · 02/03/2017 23:34

Its to give up chocolate for March.

Oh fuck off really??!!

Sorry, but even if she sent me the most polite message with the link, I wouldn't put my hand in my pocket for that.

Giving up anything for lent is supposed to be a personal sacrifice, not a chance to 'shine' on social media.

Bloody chocolate, seriously?

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Bellabooboo · 02/03/2017 23:34

No the British Heart Foundation is doing a 'Dechox' for March thing for sponsorship. I have nothing against the cause but she is literally doing fundraising every month. No wonder nobody wants to sponsor her, think everyone is a bit fatigued by it.

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Bellabooboo · 02/03/2017 23:36

I know.

I was actually considering doing it myself, bunging them £20 and seeing if it had much impact on the scales though to be fair it wouldn't be hard to replace it with sweets or crisps!

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Name7 · 02/03/2017 23:43

YANBU and I wouldn't sponsor when you do get paid, donate to who you like, when you can! Is it wrong of me to laugh at your typo?
... here's the link Bham... I have in my head ... here's the link, Birmingham!

glitterazi · 02/03/2017 23:44

Just a link and nothing else? No. I'd like to say I'd completely ignore it. As that's what I usually do if I get a link and nothing else. Spammy.
If it's family or a close friend though? I'd send a message along the lines of "hi, was just wondering what this is as didn't want to click on it without knowing?"
If they come back along the lines of "oh, hi! Sorry, meant to say I'm doing sponsored Blah Blah Thing soon, was hoping you could sponsor me? Anything at all muchly appreciated."
Then I'd be more likely to give something.

BettyBaggins · 03/03/2017 00:21

Chocofuckinglate??!!! Sod that!

emmyrose2000 · 03/03/2017 02:57

Just treat it like all other advertising spam and ignore it.

Newbiecat · 03/03/2017 03:10

I've given up chocolate,sweets, crisps, white bread for lent so you'd have to sponsor me 4x as much! Seriously that is pathetic!
As for being rude, yes it is a bit but I think a lot of people do this sort of thing on social media nowadays. Do you remember the good old days of sponsorship forms?!
If you totally ignore it that would be best IMO

KoalaDownUnder · 03/03/2017 03:19

😂😂😂 At sponsoring someone 'to give up chocolate'.

If you're 6, maybe.

This is getting stupid now. 'Can someone sponsor me to not stuff my face?'. Err, no.

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Bellabooboo · 03/03/2017 11:52

It is a bit spammy!

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