So im new here but i need an opinion as to whether my ex is a twat or i am unreasonable. So we split up a few days after i found out i was pregnant with DD (now 5) because it was an unhealthy relationship. He didnt see her until she was 3 (his choice) but started to have contact. At 1st he would come regularly, but over the last 12 months he has become ridiculous. He constantly cancels, turns up late or if he does come she is back after 45 minutes. He is late for the school run, or tells me 5 minutes before school ends that he isn't coming, he has never given, nor have i ever asked for any money towards DD but he will take her to the park in her school uniform and shoes in the pissing rain etc, he leaves her hats and gloves in his car and i never get them but regularly see pics of his younger kids in them, and several other things.
My latest problem is this. Last week he was supposed to collect DD from school, i was working later than usual so rang him at 2.30 to check and he said he was definately going. So at 3.45 when school rang, imagine my horror that the bastard hadnt turned up! I had no call or text, neither did school. Work is a 40 minute drive, and my poor girl had to sit by herself all that time. I was angry but also concerned something had happened. When he eventually returned my calls at 10pm, the cunt had fallen asleep and therefore didnt collect her!
Now today he has text asking if he can pick her up from school. I would never stop contact, he is her dad but apparently im a bitch and allsorts of other colourful names because i cant and wont trust him to do the school run.
Once he proves he can collect her from mine consistently and on time i have no issues with him going back to the school run but the last few months he has been constantly late. I am not risking my baby being sat there again thinking she has been forgotten.
AIBU saying no school runs (obviously keeping the open door policy i have with him collecting her from home) or do i just risk him doing it again?