Been with DP for 5 years, its my Birthday next Tuesday he is working nights no problem as not a big birthday and I am really busy at work so the actual birthday didnt bother me. but arranged that we would go out this Saturday night for a meal instead.
Last night his ex texted to say that his Niece is in London visting the other niece who is at uni here. they are from oversea,s and as it was her 21st a couple of days ago they are going out for a meal on Saturday night to celebrate and would love to him.
He really wants to go and usually I dont have a problem we get on fine with his ex wife and have been out before for his DS Birthday she even came to my dps 50th meal a couple of weeks ago I like her and have met the nieces before who are very nice and welcoming. But the texted came to him saying they would love him to come to th meal no mention of me not us as a couple, Dp said it will be fine for you to come as your with me
I dont want to go I dont want to spend what was meant to be my Birthday meal out with his ex wife Ds and nieces, they have in the past when out talked about the past when Dp lived in there country and the the place they lived and family I dont know and have felt excluded.
I told Dp I didnt want to go and really the invite wasnt to me he just said they wont mind your with me. his response was when I said Im not going and you go if you want is ok, and then spent the evening being over nice and intentive to me.
Any other time I would not have a problem with him going or I might go too but it was meant to be my birthday meal out with him.
My dds are both away at uni so wont be around either. so am I being Aibu to think he should have said no to the meal with ex and Nieces his Niece is in this country for the next week or so so will have time to see her a diffrent time.