To think this punishment was unfair?

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DS (secondary school) overslept this morning and didn't have time for breakfast. I then got a call saying he'd got an after school detention (tomorrow) for eating sweets in class and I'd have to pick him up. We were actually going somewhere tomorrow, AIBU to think that an after school detention isn't fair? I'm not defending what he did, he shouldn't have been eating sweets but couldn't the school have done a lunchtime detention?

FFS.

Did your son use teletransportation to get to school?

If not he coukd have eaten his breakfast sweets on the way to school and not broken school rules!

what's your take on the responses and questions op ?

Be grateful they don't consider this neglect?

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Be grateful they don't consider this neglect

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Seems a bit ott for eating sweets

Not unfair at all. Plenty of notice given for the after school detention and eating in class is clearly not allowed. Schools need support when they discipline kids.

Why is this the 3rd thread I've read on here in about the last 20 minutes about unfair punishments from a school. I'd AS the OPs but I really cba. It's definitely odd though.

Yes. I wonder what a fair punishment would look like. Lots of cake and a nice restaurant, probably.

YABU.

If you oversleep you don't always get to eat breakfast. I overslept the other day and had to get to work on time, so I didn't eat till lunchtime. That's my fault. It's no one else's fault.

He chose to eat the sweets in class and got an after school detention - completely fair enough. You can't eat sweets in class.

You're upset that you have to go and get him now, when you had prior plans. You want the school to give punishments that are convenient to you.

Depending on his age, either it's your job to make sure he gets up on time and has breakfast before he goes to school or he's old enough to organise himself in the mornings and should know better. Either way, it's not the Teachers fault that he was eating sweets in class and they shouldn't have to give up their lunchtime to accommodate your plans.

Please can anyone help me, I'm typing this message in tears, I feel like I've failed my daughter as a parent. My lovely hard working daughter which I adore so much has been banned from proms and it's so unfair, she was involved in an unprovoked attack, she was attacked by another girl who has behaviour issues, my daughter was held down when this girl was beating her up, she had bruises, when she finally broke free she was taken into the safety of an office but for some reason the attackers boyfriend got into the office and attacked my daughter pushing her and hitting her head onto a wall. When the fight was going on she couldn't breath or free herself to defend herself because her head was in headlock and another child was holding her down. When she finally broke free she acted on impulse to hit her attack but she ended up hitting a teacher by accident. The teacher even explained that my daughter hitting him was an accident. The school excluded her for 5 days and invited us to a meeting with the board of governors who have now decided that she can't attend the proms, we've even appealed but they still say no. My daughter is very stressed now, she won't eat and is complaining of severe headache, she's currently doing her GCSE and I'm sacred this can affect her performance. She's never had any problems in school and she's a good student, she worked in te school library, raised funds for charity, been a year and school council and even raised money for proms. What can I do now. This is no fair at all. Please can anyone advice me on what to do. Thanks

Catherinedoh Perhaps your problem will get more response if you start a new thread rather than hijacking an existing one.

I mean this kindly BTW. I am not having a go. This sounds horrendous.