to feel upset DD wasn't invited?

[lill72]

DD has known her friend for a few years and though not best buddies, have had play dates and been invited to each others parties. I currently share drop off and pick up for after school class with the mum. A few weeks ago she was telling me how she was organising a small party for her DD - and that she was happy she could only invite a few. I was certain that my DD would have been one invited. But it turns out she hasn't been. To add insult to injury, the mum asked me to go out for a tea. Just doesn't add up.

I just don't get why you would tell someone about a party, then not invite their child. Just a bit upsetting. What do you think?

I had ds party recently and only invited 5 kids from his class as he wanted his cousins and siblings. It was a party of 11 in the end. I don't feel guilty ( he's 8 now) for letting him chose but I low I'm being snubbed at the school gate by some mum's after it. I personally think they are being petty, it's a kids birthday , not mine. He invited the kids he plays with most. I think that's fair enough.

Myst. That mother sounds nasty, why would she just miss out DS? Had the mother told the child she had your DS's invitation. Very odd.

It wasn't the whole class invited just happened that the children outside the class at that time were invited, still she could have been kinder. Took me ages to get over it though. Had to let it go as there is no point in a feud and I'm not sure she realised just how she sounded

You sound way way over invested in this and are taking it in a very odd way. It's not about you.
^this

Astro- my teen dd is friends with twins. She is in the same form as one and in the same maths/science/English group as the other. The girls hang out both together and separately.

You sound way way over invested in this and are taking it in a very odd way. It's not about you.
I thought that post was on the wrong thread but just seen someone has agreed!

It's clearly in response to the OP

The OP who is over invested in her own life, the one?

The thing is with kids (especially girls) is that their best friend one week is the friend they don't like 3 weeks later & vice versa & it goes round & round in circles.
Most likely that the girls aren't that particularly close & the Birthday Girl didn't maliciously leave out your DD. She probably didn't even think about DD.