To have a little cry

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Baby number 3 was born on Friday. Today, we had a birthday party for the eldest at the local bowling alley. Decided it was easiest if we all went, so got everyone out of the house, only 15 minutes late, but couldn't find anyone when we got there.

Checked the invitation - party was yesterday. Thankfully, there's a soft play centre right next door, so the kids were happy to play there and have ice cream and chips for tea, but it was just too much for me to cope with. The rational part of me knows that it's not a major disaster, and that the party kid's mum will understand, but AIBU to have a bit of a cry about it all?

To clarify, it wasn't our own child's party - she was just a guest. That would be a major fuck up. Ha, already making myself feel better!

You had a baby on Friday. You are allowed to cry. It's the law!

Congratulations.

YANBU you've just had a baby! It's ok to cry although you shouldn't be expected to go to parties at all at this point! You will laugh about it before too long.

Xxx

We once rocked up to a church on the Saturday for a wedding wearing our best clobber. The gates were firmly locked. Closer inspection of the invitation revealed it was the next day on the Sunday we carefully laid aside our outfits and put them back on the next day 😂

Aw op! You were amazing to go at all! Hope everyone had a great time at soft play anyway

I thought it was your child's party. That would have been a little less OK

Have a good cry.

Of course you cried today - it's day 4 which is the weepy day!

Definitely OK to cry in a situation like that . When my DD was about a week old she had a hospital appointment. My mother had gone home, my DH had gone and fucked off back to work so I had to go on my own with hyperactive 3yr old DS in tow. It was pouring with rain, there was nowhere to park, I couldn't get the new buggy to open so I ended up walking for what seemed like miles with two soggy kids only for my DS to drop his new toy he had been bribed with down a drain! I tell you, I cried more than he did that day . There're both teenagers now and I don't think there is any lasting damage . Well done for even making it out the door!

I hadn't even had the baby at this point, but last year when eight months pregnant with DD2 we rushed 30miles across the county on a Friday evening after work and nursery with our 18month old DD1 to a surprise 30th party..... that was actually 24 hours later on the Saturday. I cried like a baby that night!!!!

I'm in awe that you got your whole family out for a party 4 days after having a baby. I thought I was doing well if I managed to get dressed 2 weeks after the birth! The party mum probably would hav

Oops, been equally impressed if you'd made it and will definitely understand you were a day out. Congratulations

My neighbours once went to a funeral of the wrong Edna. Didn't realise until the Edna who's funeral they thought it was sat next to them in the church and terrified them!

You've just had a baby and managed to get the entire family out of the door - you're doing great. Of course party parents will understand! It's not like you just couldn't be bothered to go.

You've done so well to get out. I cried ALL DAY on day 3 and 4!!
congratulations OP

Thank you. The kids had a great time at the soft play, although when DD realises we've missed the party altogether she's going to be disappointed. I just felt horrible for messing it up. Need to go easy on myself!

ClaireLumina that Edna story made me laugh!

I once took Dd to a classmates party 15mins from the end of it. I thought the message said "quarter to six" it had actually said "4 til 6".

I had no reason other than stupidity.