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is a photo book a rubbish present for a man

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loulouxx · 28/02/2017 12:06

husband is 30 this year,was thinking of making him a photobook,putting in baby photos,embarrasing school photos,then photos of us and children,what do you think?my friend thinks its something a woman would like to receive but not a man

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Lapinlapin · 28/02/2017 13:08

My dh would love it, but he's very into photos. Much more so than me.

So it's not a crappy idea at all ... but it depends on the recipient.

Think about what he likes, rather than what you think a 30th present should be.

A night away in a nice hotel for the two of you?
Tickets for a sporting event/gig/show etc?
Or something based on his hobbies?

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loulouxx · 28/02/2017 13:12

I have already got him tickets to a show and we are staying away the weekend,he hasn't really got any hobbies,just wanted him to have something to open

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Lapinlapin · 28/02/2017 13:25

Sounds fine to me then.
You sound very thoughtful and I'm sure he'll have a lovely birthday

JustSpeakSense · 28/02/2017 13:31

My DH would really appreciate that!

Mol1628 · 28/02/2017 13:33

My husband would love it. Depends on the person you're buying for, male or female.

Fairylightsandwine · 28/02/2017 13:45

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ChocDee · 28/02/2017 13:54

I did it for my soldier boy future husband - and it caused him to say that he loved me for the first time.

But I included little envelopes that I stuck in at appropriate moment where I left little notes about how I felt about him at that exact moment etc etc

I think it was that that pushed him over the edge!

lastqueenofscotland · 28/02/2017 14:01

My DP would love it, I would hate it. It's not a gender thing.

Izzabellasasperella · 28/02/2017 15:01

I did this for my Dh. I got lots of childhood photos from his Mum then added ones of us for when we met through to the children. He loved it and it made him cry, so I think it's a lovely idea.

Roanoke · 28/02/2017 15:11

To be honest it's not something I'm keen on for anyone. If I were to receive photos of my children, well... what for? I probably took them, for one thing, and two, I am more than a mother, I am not obsessed with my kids to the extent I want a book of their faces. I am pretty hostile to gifts that define me only as 'a mother', like "Oh, happy birthday, I bought you baby clothes or children's books" (weird) "Or this mug with MUM on it" (no thanks.)

Photos are a thing, like spoons and socks, you have them, but they're not 'special' like it's 1854 or anything. They're just fairly pleasant household basics. Not really gifts.

Crispsheets · 28/02/2017 15:13

Great idea I gave one to my partner as a record of our time together. I'm doing one for ds's 18th.

Gudgyx · 28/02/2017 15:14

If he has a football team, what about a season ticket? Got my OH that for his 30th, he loved it and it was well used!

TheEmmaDilemma · 28/02/2017 15:15

I did one for DP, he loved it.

Gudgyx · 28/02/2017 15:15

To add to that, he would not have appreciated a photo book, but he isn't sentimental in the slightest. You know him best!

InstinctivelyITry · 28/02/2017 15:21

My exDH was sentimental (or so he let on). I did a collage of our kids photos, and framed it. Took me hours and hours. He never looked at it after I gave it to him, it was left behind the settee. Just be sure you'll.be comfortable with a potentially lukewarm response OP. You're very thoughtful!

spooniestudent · 28/02/2017 16:02

I did this for an aniversary present with pictures and tickets and bits that I'd kept, my dp loved it.

MiddleClassProblem · 28/02/2017 16:08

Is there anything that he secretly would like but would but for himself? DH wants Star Wars Lego stuff and dreams of doing it one day.

countrygirl55 · 28/02/2017 16:19

My DP would love this. I always include something along these lines for birthday or Christmas. Previous ones have been a box frame with heart shapes cut from maps showing places we had visited that year, a jar of folded up reasons why I love him (from the soppy to the ridiculous/saucy) or a multi-frame with pics of us and kids in. Not as a main pressie, as others have said, but just something with a bit of thought in it. Maybe my DP is a bit of a soppy git!

Love51 · 28/02/2017 16:34

I think it's a lovely present for a spouse, very personal. Assuming he's not of the 'not keen on photo's' persuasion, else you wouldn't have suggested it.

Notso · 28/02/2017 16:40

I got an inkling SIL was going to do one for my 30th as she kept asking for our CD's of photographs from our wedding etc and I deliberately said I couldn't find them/they were in the cellar/forgot because I didn't want one.

However DC (well the older ones) did a collage frame of pictures of them and DH for him one Fathers Day and he loved it.

StepAwayFromTheEcclesCakes · 28/02/2017 16:44

I think it's lovely. I did one for DH's 50th, starting with baby photos, stuff from his childhood, then from when we first met, our wedding, holidays, the arrival of kids, all with captions he liked it... rarely looks at it mind but its there along with the photobooks I do every year as an xmas present from whatever holidays we have had that year. He is a birdwatcher and wildlife photographer so I include his best pics as well as some of the general holiday snaps, they make a nice keepsake and a bit of a talking point / coffee table collection.

booklooker · 28/02/2017 16:51

I'm a bloke, and I would love it.

I would really appreciate the time, effort and thought put into creating it.

Mama1980 · 28/02/2017 16:55

I made one for one of my brothers 30th, he loved it, and now his children love looking at it. I put in a couple of pics form each year of his life, nice ones and embarrassing ones.

NiceMoustache · 28/02/2017 16:58

I'd assumed you'd meant one of those boudoir books.

Enidblyton1 · 28/02/2017 17:02

I did one for my DH with photos of our first decade together. He loved it and often has a flick through.
I'm surprised by the amount of negative comments on here. Don't listen to any of us - just ask yourself if photos are the kind of thing your DP likes to look at. Combined with a show and night away it sounds like a lovely addition.

(I would do photos you've taken rather than ones from his childhood)

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