To refuse to call him by his stupid nickname??

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So we have a brand new staff member in my team who has a perfectly sensible name - Steven but has decided to use some ridiculously stupid nickname he made up - Sonty
And he is now constantly correcting all of us and insisting we use his nickname. I am his manager. I feel silly even uttering Sonty. Yet he corrects me every time I say Steven.
Aibi to want to take Sonty and shove it up his bum!
PS not his real name or moronic nickname but they are similar to what I said.

Peg and Peggy are definitely common nicknames for Margaret, as is Daisy. Old fashioned, but traditional.

OP can you introduce him as D'Zar, and pretend he is forrin? Mutter something about him being Czech or Saudi or something and affect the countenance of one who is not bound by accepted knowledge of geography.

Just realised there were loads of other pages I hadn't read when I posted my last message. I think Dazza is ok in some contexts but not in others. It just sounds a bit childish so not really appropriate for work (though maybe ok in a nursery school?).

Maybe play with the pronunciation.

Daaaaza
Daaaazaaaa
Dazzaaaa
Dazha

ksdjflskjdflkajfslkdj

effect the countenance, effect the countenance.... doh!

somehow Daz sounds OK but Dazza sounds bad!

X post with doom

Yes I think a sit down conversation about how it would be totally inappropriate to call him Dazza to clients and that he needs to get used to the fact that he will be referred to by them as Darren. That if he wants to call himself that away from client meetings etc then thats fine, butin a work enviroment it is unprofessional and unacceptable.

Does he put his tie round his head when it's home time?

Written down it's better wit one 'z'

Daza

I think if you say it formally enough with surname it could go under the radar.

Yeah - try

"This is Dah-Zah (the Half-Wit is silent)

Dazza! Bless.

Oh dear, OP. I sympathise.

Another vote for unprofessional. this wouldn't have flown anywhere I've worked. Diminutives that are in themselves real names, Tim, Tom, Jon, Bill, Dave, Peggy, Maddie, Kit, Liz, no problem at all. Baz, Dazza and Gaz is on a different level of informality, names used between mates not in a business relationship. It's like babe and sweetheart, nothing wrong per sey but context is everything as to whether its endearment or inappropriate.

In my old office we had a Bea, a Vicky an Alex, a Steve. All nicknames.

The senior partner called them Beatrice, Victoria, Alexander and Steven.

None of them said anything. She was senior enough said. She called people by their full name not a nickname.

He should wind his neck in.

I think you have a point, I'd call him Darren in front of clients and Dazza at other times. And I'd explain to him this is what was going to happen and it was to keep a high level of professionalism with clients. Although I'd struggle with calling someone dazza even in private if I'm honest.

As for ""Yo, Konty! How's it hanging?"

That seriously made me lol. 😂😂😂

Be thankful - I work with a middle aged man who likes to be called Beastie. Can't bring myself to say it and inwardly I'm thinking twat.

Is it just me or does Sonty remind you of Sooty?

I'd ask him where sweep and Soo were.

I'm crying-laughing at D'Zar.

Dazza is what you call your mate recounting your adventures on a night out, not your colleague in a client-facing office role. He needs to get over it.

I absolutely wouldn't introduce anyone as Dazza. I would introduce him as Darren and allow him the humiliation of actually saying out loud "Call me Dazza"

I agree that D'Zar is the way to go, or perhaps The D Man?

Just no. Awful.

There is no way I would call someone "Dazza".

As for this

If it was me I wouldn't answer you if you called me by my real name, I hate it.

You must like unemployment.

No to Dazza. Twatty and immature.

Call him Dazzle or The Dazzle or The Old Razzle Dazzle

In parts of London and the south-east Darren would be Dal, Barry Bal and Terry Tel etc. I think Dal has the slightest edge on Dazza but only the slightest.

"Does he put his tie round his head when it's home time?"

I wouldn't be able to say "Dazza" with a straight face I'm afraid.

Dazza is fine (if stupid) for within the confines of the office/team, but not for speaking with clients. He will need to accept that distinction.

I have a shortened name at work, whereas I actually prefer my long name for work. Think Catherine to Cathy. The problem was that many of my colleagues already knew me as Cathy which I prefer among friends and now it's stuck, despite me always introducing myself to clients and other colleagues as Catherine!