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AIBU?

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Am I really a "boring old bastard" because I've asked for a relaxing spa day for my birthday?

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Deeperthanathousandcuts · 26/02/2017 23:11

I have a milestone birthday coming up sharp intake of breath - my fortieth and have been asked what I would like. Rather than feign uber politeness and remark that there couldn't possibly be anything I need/want I've asked for a night away at a spa hotel and then a half day at the spa whereupon I'll be lavished with 3 hours of relaxing relaxing treatments.

The reaction to this has been startling with friends and family members calling me boring and old before my time. This is honestly my idea of heaven on earth. Other suggested alternatives have been a weekend in Amsterdam/Prague which I'm sure would be lovely but I just want a frigging spa day not a weekend stomping drunkenly around a City. Have I become boring?

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GeorgiePeachie · 27/02/2017 14:50

I'm 25 and that sounds like heaven to me as it's an expensive treat I can't afford for my self.

Olympiathequeen · 27/02/2017 14:55

I've got another one coming up and it's lovely to have the massage and the swim and the nice lunch in peace and quiet.

Olympiathequeen · 27/02/2017 14:56

georgie wowcher often do cheap deals.

shovetheholly · 27/02/2017 15:37

It's individual preference, isn't it - and it's your birthday! If you can't do what you want on your 40th, then when can you?

A spa day is my idea of hell, but I don't think it makes you at all boring to want one.

shovetheholly · 27/02/2017 15:38

Also, I'm loving all these ideas for a 40th. Mine's not that far off and at the moment, my best idea is to sit under the bedclothes and wail.

specialsubject · 27/02/2017 16:06

You were asked what you want, this is it.

I don't see spas as places for the elderly. The girly, maybe, but if that's you then enjoy.

Unicorn81 · 27/02/2017 17:14

Not at all, sounds bliss to me. I suspect its your friends and family who want the excuse to go out in the piss. Get yourself off to the spa and enjoy!

Archimandrite · 27/02/2017 18:10

Nope, not boring one bit. You like what you like. If a spa day/weekend is something you'd really enjoy and is a real treat, then why not?

We all enjoy different things and none of them are 'better' than any other things. If you'd love some time at a spa (and I can't think of anything better either), then ignore any comments about it being 'old' or 'boring'.

hunibuni · 27/02/2017 18:34

It's my 40th next week and I'm going for an overnight spa break. It would be soo much better if DH wasn't coming but it's also our wedding anniversary I don't care what the occasion is, any chance to relax without people talking to me is my idea of heaven!

Dontjudgeme1 · 27/02/2017 19:28

I think this sounds fab! If they want to go on a weekend break, they can!

RubyWinterstorm · 27/02/2017 19:31

Sounds great.

I had a karaoke night in the local pub , it was fun, I laughed a lot, everyone could join, did not know it's "normal" to do something bigger!

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Deeperthanathousandcuts · 27/02/2017 20:43

Cheers for all of your reassuring responses...I have mustered up the courage to speak out to my friends and family and have decided that the spa day is the way forward. Took your advice and insisted on a full day spa-ing it. I cannot wait!

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longdiling · 27/02/2017 20:50

Good for you op! Enjoy it

DarklyDreamingDexter · 27/02/2017 20:57

Sounds fabulous. Do it and enjoy!

Wdigin2this · 27/02/2017 21:41

No it's not boring, but it would be my idea of hell....can't stand the idea of massages!

AbernathysFringe · 27/02/2017 22:41

Took my friend's 18 year old dd for one for her 18th. We both loved it. Not just a 'mature' person thing to do at all!

stevie69 · 27/02/2017 22:46

I feel your pain, OP. It's my 50th VERY soon and my little sis asked what I'd like.

I asked for a small shredder (as mine has stopped working) and was told that was WAAY too boring by sis and niece, who decided that I needed some Converse (which I understand to be youth speak for expensive plimsolls).

So Converse it will be—I'm afraid of my sister I'd still prefer a shredder, though ....

edwardcullensotherwoman · 27/02/2017 22:49

My friends and I started doing this for our birthdays when the first of us turned 30 a couple of years ago! Spent 2 nights at a spa hotel for DHs 40th, we had our honeymoon and first anniversary at spa hotels too. Can you tell I love a spa day??
Don't listen to them OP - not everyone's idea of fun is the same!

WhoKn0wsWhereTheTimeG0es · 27/02/2017 22:54

Well, I got some crochet hooks and a pair if gardening gloves for my 50th and declined to throw a party, so I'm well and truly in boring territory, but I had a nice weekend with family and various friends who popped by with cards and flowers and that suited me just fine. In fact I didn't let on to my colleagues that it was the big 50, because I didn't want a fuss. Glad you got the whole day, enjoy it!

PyongyangKipperbang · 28/02/2017 01:24

It sounds as boring as hell to me, but I am not you! My idea of a good 40th would have been a weekend misbehaving in London with my sister, but you are not me!

If you were my friend and you asked for that then I would contribute or pay for a treatment for you. I wouldnt judge you or call you boring because you dont like what I like.

Tartyflette · 28/02/2017 06:47

I am at a spa hotel for a few days at the moment (DH is away ski-ing, which I loathe) and am so relaxed I feel boneless.
So far I've had a neck treatment and a facial, my eyebrows are being sorted today and I went to a ' very gentle' exercise/stretching session that I'm still recovering from.
But mostly I swim, there is a wonderful pool and I spend a lot of time in it. You don't have to have a massage if you don't want one. The food is good and everyone is very friendly. You can be as active as you want, country walks are available - you're not locked in!
I can see it might not be to everyone's taste but if you like the idea I heartily recommend it.

ClemDanfango · 28/02/2017 06:51

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RubyWinterstorm · 28/02/2017 07:32

Tartyflette.... sounds heavenly to me!

Tumilnaughts · 28/02/2017 08:08

I turned 28 last year and this is exactly what I asked for. Ended up not getting it so I went and treated myself! The heart wants what the heart needs, screw everyone else. Sounds lovely.

RaspberryOverloadsOnChilli · 28/02/2017 08:31

Tartyflette that sounds fab, hope you carry on having a relaxing time. 😀

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