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Is 25 still young

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BoomerAnge · 26/02/2017 23:11

I'm 25 and starting to feel so down about ageing

I've travelled, got a good job but want to travel so much more! Also don't have a boyfriend... I want to still have a wild youth but worried those days are long gone

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MrsJayy · 27/02/2017 10:03

My eldest is 24 so yeah still young however you can have fun whatever age you are there is no cut off point really

blueskyinmarch · 27/02/2017 10:05

25 definitely young. My DD will be 25 this year. She is young no doubt about that.

thunderbuddy · 27/02/2017 10:06

I was classed as a young Mum when I had dc1 at 23 so 25 is still young.

SEsofty · 27/02/2017 10:08

Young is whatever age you don't have real responsibilities. So you can just decide to do something and do it.

Now is the perfect time to work overseas, learn new skills or whatever it is you want to do

MatildaTheCat · 27/02/2017 10:10

Having a wild youth is pretty overrated IMO.

Is 25 young? Yes and no. It's certainly old enough to be acting like a mature adult and taking responsibility for your own life. It's also very young in terms of moving towards settling down and thinking about marriage and children.

Pursue your dreams and I've no doubt that a partner will be along at some point. ( ds1 seemed to have it all except a gf at your age. Now a couple of years later he's with the exact right woman for him and so happy. He was also happy before.)

TheElephantofSurprise · 27/02/2017 10:11

Young is whatever age you don't have real responsibilities
The definition I've been waiting for! That makes me young at 59!

Joinourclub · 27/02/2017 10:14

So young! Ah,I loved my 20s, fun times.

FuzzyFalafelz · 27/02/2017 10:18

I'm 40. 25 is young and sometimes very immature still.

PickAChew · 27/02/2017 10:22

At 25, your bus pass is just around the corner.

TheNaze73 · 27/02/2017 10:26

It's all relative. When I was 18, 25 sounded ancient, now I'm in early in my 50's, it sounds young to me. At 25, you still qualify for a young persons railcard & a youth fare on Eurostar! So it's the law, you're young & it's in writing Wink

StarUtopia · 27/02/2017 10:28

I do understand. I remember crying when I was 27 because I was 'so old'

Now at 40 something, that seems ridiculous! (plus some of my closest fab friends are 50 this year - they seem too young to be 50!!)

You are a child. I was wild until 36 when I met my husband. You have another 10 years or so of messing about! Go travelling! Go on a Gap Year! Learn to surf! Do something fun!

PoorYorick · 27/02/2017 10:34

No. At 25 you should expect liver spots, hardened arteries, swollen arthritic joints and to have had two new hips. Children will run screaming and mothers will threaten their wayward youngsters with the decrepit 25 year old hag who will come and get them in the night if they don't behave.

In fact, what are you even doing on here, OP? How did you get to your laptop with one foot in the grave?

Tomorrowillbeachicken · 27/02/2017 10:35

Yep, I'm almost 35 and still feel young.

Kiroro · 27/02/2017 10:38

Late twenties are the bomb! Then early thirties are even better.

QueueCue · 27/02/2017 10:43

I had a mortgage and a baby at 25 so you ve done well!

No it's not old.
I'm 35 and I've felt much more comfortable being in my 30's and grown so much as a person in the last ten years and I have always been quite happy with who I am. I just somehow feel better.

I still have things I like to do and exploring but now it's with my dc

stevie69 · 27/02/2017 10:54

It's very young, I promise whereas my 50 is just 'young' .

Try not to worry' You have a whole life of wonderful opportunity to look forward to.

S xxx

OrcinusOrca · 27/02/2017 12:06

Haha I'm 25 too and this thread has cheered me up Smile

Most of my friends are still single or are enjoying freedom and such. I feel quite old sometimes (I'm an avid planner and more settled than some of my friends), but then I remember being 16 and thinking 25 was ancient which is probably why!

HookandSwan · 27/02/2017 12:09

Oh gees I wish I was 25!! Lol but the life have now. I didn't meet my boyfriend until last year and I'm 32. It will happen when you least expect it.

MiniEggsForAll · 27/02/2017 13:21

To me age starts not meaning too much after 20 or so & is more just about where people are in life.
I'm just gone 25 but have mortgage, toddler & another baby on way. Getting married in few months.
That is purely just because that is just the path my life has taken, I could just as easily be travelling now or living in some far flung place!
Dont panic yet Wink

LlamaBananas · 27/02/2017 18:10

25 is still very young imo.
I had my first baby just after turning 26. I didnt feel young then but now at 44 i realise how very young i was.
Age is only a number and a mindset.
I was ferling a bit middle aged 4 years ago but then i got cancer. Lots of people said "you're quite young really to be so ill" etc etc.
Im just getting my life back on track. Part of me feels ravaged and old after the last few years but im so bloody grateful im still here. Yes im 44. 44 is not young but its not old either.

None of us will ever be as young as we are today ever again. 25 is nothing. You have 20 years before you need to start wondering about middke age.
Be glad you are living at a time when we are all younger. There is alot of truth in todays 30 is the new 20, 40 the new 30 and 50 the new 40. I have friends late 50's that dress and look fab. They look 40ish if that, and live a lifestyle and social life im very envious of.
Age is what you make it. I suppose you can be 25 and old if you you think thats it but what a miserable way yo spend the next 50 years feeling old and past it.
I get days when i have to think im only 44 instead of ffs i"m 44. But guess which days turn out better?

Astoria7974 · 27/02/2017 18:16

Quarter life crisis? Lol just live your life and do the stuff you want to do - people only regret the things they don't do.

barinatxe · 27/02/2017 18:19

25 is still young. It feels old when you are 18, but many people's lives don't even properly begin until they are mid-twenties or older.

Back when people got married at 21, had a mortgage and kids by the time they were 25, it was more unusual. But the pressures on the "young" mean that for many these things are unimportant or unobtainable until much older in life.

TheMasterNotMargarita · 27/02/2017 18:24

It's just a number.
I had a bit of a crisis at 25 though and felt similar.
However..DH and I have had wild times together and hope for many more.
40 this year and feeling very excited and positive about it. And definitely not old.
25 sucked for some reason. I think maybe because at that point you know that childhood is gone and you should be a responsible adult.
Live life op it goes quickly Wine!

SteppingOnToes · 27/02/2017 18:26

I'm only just "settling" at 38 - you have plenty of life lef tin you yet!

ItWentInMyEye · 27/02/2017 18:34

Yep it's still young! The world is your oyster!

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