Is this weird?

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DH has just discovered that the house his dad & stepmum used to live in when Dh was younger is available. He thinks we should seriously consider moving into it.
It's more rent than we're paying now but we'd be able to afford it
Its 3 bedroom semi with a nice garden (we live in a 2 bed end terrace now)
It's not that near the CM (she doesn't have transport but we do - with some rearranging of schedules)
It's on a less convenient route to work for me
It's closer to better (and more) shops
It's not as close to a nursery/school for DS (but he's only 16 months at the mo)

SO...my main issue is (besides the above)...FIL used to live in it many moons ago....and it would feel weird to me.

DH has arranged a viewing for next week.

SO...I AM being unreasonble on this aren't I?
OH - and we've also arranged to go on holiday later this year and would have to save up for that too on top of finding the deposit/first month's rent

Wouldn't it be more weird for your DH? I would say take it on it's own merits and ignore the family connection if it doesn't bother your DH.

Were you ever in the house while your DH's family were still living there?

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Sorry, I didn't mean 'take it on it's own merits', I meant 'consider it on it's own merits'.

Hi - no I've never been in the house. FIL moved from there about 15 years ago.

I think it's more that it was his FIL's wife's house and she's kind of "I used to have my settee HERE", "I always painted the bathroom X" type person.

(and I've have a hell of a time not saying "Well it ain't your fecking house anymore so shut up!"

he wants a piece of his childhood back. careful - you may find it covered in orange and brown corduroy before you know it.

best leave the past where it belongs, although having a snoop around is harmless.

whiffy

Some friends of mine bought her parents' house from them when her parents retired. It was a big mistake.

Every time they painted a wall, moved a shelf or dug up a plant from the garden they faced tears and a lecture from her mother for ruining her home. When they took down some fitted wardrobes that her father had built, he didn't speak to them for three months. Every time her parents come to visit they sulk because they have to sleep in the spare room, not "their" bedroom. They expect to be consulted about every change that is made to the house because they still think of it as theirs, and they feel free to make derogatory comments about how much nicer it was before this, that or the other was changed.

I wouldn't do it.

If the house met my needs I would move in. However I am quite hard nosed and would be perfectly prepared to say firmly to interfering FIL / MIL " Well you may have had your sofa there and that's fine, but it's our house now and we do things differently" (accompanied by saccharine sweet false smile)

Perhaps you can say to dh that you will consider the house, as long as you have his word that he will back you on this sort of issue further down track (should it arise)

i wouls suggest house hunting somewhere that ticks all the boxes for both of you

Thinking about it, I think I am being silly. They've not lived there for about 15 years I suppose. LOADS of other people will have been in and out of it between now and then.
DH isn't being pushy in the slightest about this I have to add.

I think my initial reaction might have also been a little like yours, but honestly, you'll make your own of the place if you move there

the only danger is that the DP will be sentimentally attached, and might let that cloud his judgement, which would be where you come in ....

Good luck ...

@Bumpbumpbunp If this is how you spend your evening, re-registering to make poor attempts at trolling Mumsnet, I can only imagine how exciting your life must be...

Ifyou were looking for a larger home and you’re not bothered about being farther away from the CM. then by all means, have a look and decide if it’s suited to your family.
no harm in looking.