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Parking one wiu?

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Mrbluethecatt · 26/02/2017 13:39

My next door neighbours drive is directly adjacent to ours. NDN's DS has his GF over and she sometimes parks a bit across our drive. This doesn't bother me as when I ask her to move it it gets moved.

Today I needed to go out (12noonish) so asked them to move the car. GF says it has broke down that it died last night. I said have you called the AA. Not yet I was told we have just got upHmm.

I said I needed out so can she get the car pushed to unblock the drive. She started faffing about umming and ahhing. I said to NDN DS that he could push it and joking told him to get his shoes on.

10 minutes later the car hadn't been moved so I popped into my other neighbour and asked if he and his DS could help push a car. They agreed. I then knocked on NDN door and the GF answered. I asked had they called the AA and told her the car needed moved. She hadn't called the AA as her was having breakfast and the BF was showering.

I say well it needs moved, jump in the driver's seat and we'll move it. I must admit I was a bit annoyed by this stage. Two minutes later the car was pushed to block NDN drive.

I then went out. When I came back there was a note from NDN's DS saying I can upset GF and needed to apologise.Hmm

So was wibu to make her move the car and should I be apologising or would ibu to wait until NDN is back and have a word. Needless to say anytime the GF blocks the drive in the future I will be straight out even if we don't need out.

NDN's DS is 26 and GF is 25 with 3 kids.

Parking one wiu?
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DontTouchTheMoustache · 26/02/2017 15:04

Oh I'd be bloody well going over all right, but it wouldn't be to apologise!

picklemepopcorn · 26/02/2017 15:11

"I've just popped over to let you know that, as you find it upsetting to be asked to move it, you need to be sure not to block me in anymore. I can't always wait until you are ready to move, given that your car can be unreliable."

Beachedwh4le · 26/02/2017 15:11

I find it hard to believe anyone would have such little self awareness as to post even one of those notes Hmm

BillyButtfuck · 26/02/2017 15:14

I would leave a note saying you are so very sorry that she does not know how to legally park and understand how upsetting this may be for her, perhaps suggesting the name and number for a local driving instructor.

LucklessMonster · 26/02/2017 15:14

Dear Neighbour's Son

Is your girlfriend illiterate as well as stupid and entitled? Just wondering why she can't write her own notes. Please don't stop though, it's giving Mumsnet some great laughs!

Lots of love,

Mrbluethecatt

AwaywiththePixies27 · 26/02/2017 15:18

Is she leaving in her car Grin

😂

EwanWhosearmy · 26/02/2017 15:19

As PPs have suggested I would be having words with NDN and explaining that if GF dares to park over your drive again you will be having the car towed. What a madam!

averythinline · 26/02/2017 15:27

I would 'pop'over just to make it very clear that they are not to park over your drive... and you will tow/clamp - get penguin bollards as necessary if they do again...

WhatchaMaCalllit · 26/02/2017 15:28

Delphine or pickle have it. Say that.

10/10 for the drawing though.

DesolateWaist · 26/02/2017 15:33

She has 3 children but manages to be in bed until noon!! How does that work?

I fail to see the problem here. You asked her to sit in the drivers seat so you could push the car. You did nothing wrong at all and I don't think you were asking too much.
Unless you asked her by saying something like 'oi bitch moved your fucking car' I don't see what you have to apologise for.
As for the BF dictating terms about the timing of your apology he can get to fuck.

Enko · 26/02/2017 15:43

I would go with LyndaLaHughes suggestion. IF you dont want to go and speak with them face to face then write it down. However I would if you at all can go and look them straight in the eye as you speak with them.

Make it clear they are no longer welcome to use your drive for her parking needs.

Excellent diagram btw Grin

talidinozzo · 26/02/2017 16:01

Wtf is wrong with some people?! Tell her you're sorry she has thus far been unable to park legally and that you'll assist her with that by no longer enabling her to break the law.

MilkTwoSugarsThanks · 26/02/2017 16:06

Would it be very wrong of me to placemark for a just after 5pm update?

The GF owes the OP an apology, not the other way round!

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Mrbluethecatt · 26/02/2017 16:21

Praise for my diagramBlush

With my noisey neighbour hat on the 3 kids are never around at the weekend. NDN was the one who mentioned she had kids when a random bike was left in my front garden last summer.

I think I'll wait until 4.55pm then pop in. My NDN is home so we can have a nice long chat Wink

Unfortunately I think my NDN DS and GF have the self awareness of a midgie. Luckily for me DH is out. He is a bit less grrr 🐯 treat them like toddlers with the neighbours than me.

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emilybrontescorset · 26/02/2017 16:23

Maybe I'm hormonal but I'd get a builder to bloody build a small F off concrete wall between the 2 drives.
Then in time maybe plant hedges/ flowers or what ever .
I wouldn't give a damn whether they spoke to me again either.
Problem solved.

Cherrysoup · 26/02/2017 16:27

She's an idiot for blocking you on and should apologise. Please don't apologise to the silly mare.

BillyButtfuck · 26/02/2017 16:43

Is your NDN reasonable? Do you get on? I would be Shock if my son and/or sons girlfriend treated my neighbours like that although ds1&2 are under 1.

SquinkiesRule · 26/02/2017 17:09

I'm parked here waiting to hear what NDN says about her adult/child son and his adult/teen girlfriend

Groovee · 26/02/2017 17:13

I'd not apologise! I'd be telling her in future you will call the police to have the car uplifted should she block you in again.

CatchingBabies · 26/02/2017 17:14

Also wondering what the response was when you told them they were being ridiculous!

BillyButtfuck · 26/02/2017 17:15

OP are you still in there? I hope you're okay and have lots of juicy details to come back to us with. Love your diagram btw.

HiggeldyPiggeldy · 26/02/2017 17:32

she is a cheeky cow, I hope you have told them not to park across your drive again

DartmoorDoughnut · 26/02/2017 17:39

Hope you're having a lovely cuppa with the sane ndn and that his daft son and his entitled gf are still waiting for their apology!

70isaLimitNotaTarget · 26/02/2017 17:51

Does she 'need' to park across your drive due to lack of space on the road?
She's shot herself squarely in the foot , don't put up with accompodating them .
If she parks, shift her every time . Doesn't matter if you're not going out.
Let her find somewhere else even if it means a walk back.

Original poster
Mrbluethecatt · 26/02/2017 18:04

So I spoke to NDN the DS and GF. NDN answered the door with a smile and a wink so I knew she was going to be cool.

Apparently GF and DS told NDN that I was rude, aggressive and demanding. That I forced GF to move her car against her will. Sad poor lamb GF said she felt 'emotionally violated' and thought I was reductive whatever that means

NDN seat silent sipping her tea whilst this was happening. When the GF was finished NDN said oh well don't worry you won't be parking near the house in the future so it won't be a problem. Grin NDN then asked me about my sister's new puppy. 😇😂

Her DS and GF started arguing back with NDN so I left.

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