To think moving at 9pm is a little inconsiderate?

[blitzgirl]

My neighbours front door is less than a metre away from mine and dd (4) bedroom door is right next to the front door. Yesterday my neighbours decided to move out. They took their living room furniture out around 10am and then nothing all day. At 8.30 last night they decided to come back and move the remaining large items from their flat. Cue lots of noise in the hallway, screaming children, shouting etc. Dd has been poorly for a week now with an ear infection and horrible cough, she was in bed at this point settling after a rather unsettled night the previous night. All this noise and commotion woke her up. We waited until around half 9 before finally sending a text to ask politely if they could keep the noise down in the hall as dd was ill and trying to sleep. I was in Dd's room with her when the text got sent and as a result I could hear the reaction to it. One of their visitors shouting at the top of their voice asking what the time was and tenant saying we had no right to complain, they can hear dd in the daytime etc. We have never complained to them about their antisocial noise before and there has been a lot. So AIBU to think these people are just plain thick that they thought it was ok to decide to move their stuff at 9pm and also that they think it's ok to let their helpers continue shouting their mouths off after being asked to keep the noise down? I honestly don't think I could stand another night of it tonight if they do

Viques numbers were exchanged between the man and my partner when they moved in. I don't have these numbers.

My mum was baby sitting a few months ago & popped her head out the door to ask the woman and her friend if they could please be quiet at 11.30 pm and when she went back in they were even louder and slammed the doors. This is the reason why a text was sent. She not he

I hear everyone about logistics and moving etc and I do realise we don't live in an ideal world.

I try to keep dd as quiet as I can during the day, I do tell her to stop jumping up and down as I realise noise travels. I try but obviously not enough.

I do understand it's frustrating when you're trying to sleep and especially with a little one, and sometimes people are just inconsiderate. At least they're leaving, hopefully your new neighbours will be lovely.

A few months ago we had neighbours a couple of doors down moving in at 4am on a Friday morning. Banging about in the back of a van dumped in the middle of the road, shouting to each other and making all kinds of racket. We were seriously unimpressed. Husband went out to ask them to keep it down, or please couldn't they just park the van and move the rest of the furniture in the morning. They refused as they said they had to take the van back to the hire place by 8. Thankfully since then we haven't had a problem with them. It's just so annoying at the time that it's hard to remember that it moving is an inherently stressful thing to do and even people that are usually considerate neighbours just don't think sometimes.

blitzgirl You will never be able to keep DD quiet. She is a child. Making noise is part of what being a child is about.

Making noise is also part of moving.

Neither of you are deliberately trying to annoy the other, hence you being unreasonable to complain.

I would have popped over to ask, not a text. It's a bit passive aggressive. They were going, my dh would've helped them, especially as you sound happy that they're going. It's not their problem your dd is unwell.

I also think YABU. You don't always get access to keys etc at the planned time on moving day. We got ours at 4pm!!

Your text was unhelpful. It's not as if they move out every day and you should have let it slide on this occasion.

Personally, I'd have just been glad they were moving out and not in and let them get on with it. You were definitely being unreasonable to send a text asking them to be quiet - firstly, because it is a cowardly way to deal with someone when you could have just opened your door and spoken to them like actual people and, secondly, because it was quite obvious it wouldn't make any difference at all and would just antagonise them at an obviously stressful time.

I hate other people's noise more than most but even I would understand that they probably didn't choose to be moving house at that time of night - it was probably the only time they could get help. I also understand that the world doesn't revolve around me and my family.

I hope you get some nice new neighbours - if I were you I'd be lovely to them from the outset and speak to them about any issues that may arise in person rather than by text. Their front door is literally a metre from yours after all.

I definitely don't think the world evolves around me or my family! And yes in hindsight I should have gone out and asked. I have always been nice and friendly to all of my neighbours and when these guys moved in I gave them cups of tea and even sandwiches as they didn't have any fridge in at that point. I'm not a horrible person and last night I finally had to say something. Yes I could have done it in person and I realise that the text probably did make the situation worse. I didn't really think that would be the case until I read everybody's replies on here. That's why I put it on here because I wasn't sure if we had dealt with it the right way or not. And by what's been said I would say we didn't. I'm not in a position to help them with moving as I have a nasty arm injury, not their fault in any way shape or form just wanted to justify why I wasn't lugging boxes too.

In my old flat we had people start moving in to the flat above us at midnight!! They were going up to the 3rd floor so lots of banging furniture off of the stairs/walls, shouting to each other etc. Our bedroom was right up against the stair wall so I'm not ashamed to say I flew out there & asked what the hell they thought they were doing at midnight! Not actual words used but I don't want to get flamed too much!

They were absolute bastards, woman would do 10 laps of her flat in her high heels on laminate flooring before she left at 7am, they'd randomly start blaring out music at half 11-midnight so I'd have to go up there & literally bang on their door with my fist so she could hear me so I could tell her to turn it off.

I've got kids so a bit of noise is fine with me but they well & truly took the piss!

Who are all you people who give your numbers to your neighbours? Mine haver got a chance in hell of ever getting mine.

Not exactly sociable I get you OP but it was before 11pm and you've presumably no idea why they had to wait that late? Maybe it's because they were doing a runner and didnt want people knowing where they're going. Maybe they were at work all day and this is the only time they could have done it.

Nevertheless, be grateful they're moving.

Sounds like you are well shot of them. And agree with Awaywiththepixies re.giving neighbours your phone number! Hell would freeze over before I give some of my neighbours my number.

Inconsiderate: yes. Crime: no. Sometimes people just suit themselves, irritating, but perfectly within their rights to do so.

YABVU. Life doesn't stop at 9pm.

I think you should have just left them alone and not dealt with it at all. They were moving out. The only response would have been to dance a jig.

You really can't move furniture without some raised voices giving instructions, asking to wait to get a better grip or manouver around a corner.

Your DD would have survived.

The rule of thumb around here is noise after midnight is unreasonable but anything before then is fine as long as nobody is losing an eye.

I knew I was in for trouble when people moved in next door to me late one afternoon assisted by some very rough friends, and the man proceeded to assemble furniture with a power tool and put up shelves and coat hooks with a drill and hammer and hang pictures until well after 3 am. They continued in similar vein throughout their tenancy. When the LL and handyman inspected the flat after they had left they found the floors were destroyed (we had water dripping through the ceiling and down the fireplace one day - suspect they broke a big fish tank) and the loo had been separated from its seal so sewage had oozed onto the bathroom floor. There were holes in the walls that he had punched - I heard him roaring at some sports event on the (really loud) tv one day and jumping around like a gorilla, cursing. The woman used to leave in the morning and slam the door so hard it bounced back to the wall, so the doorknob left a ding in the plaster, door swinging open and their two dogs roaming free in the building. We got mice because they were filthy. The entire flat had to be redone - new walls, new floors, new loo and bathroom sink and kitchen cabinets repaired (doors were swinging off). They had two unfortunate little kids.

My current downstairs neighbour lets her dog out to bark for 45 minutes beginning at 6.30am and her tv is on from then until she leaves for work at 7.30, turned to 'really loud'. She turns it on again the minute she gets home in the evening and it's on until 11ish. Tis a pita but actually she's not as loud as the previous downstairs neighbours were.