To think that you would be crazy to ask a question here?

[PositivePeggyNans]

There are some lovely MN posters, but from what I can see at least 75% of people seem to come on here to argue.

Most threads end up with the entire group turning on the OP.

It is a shame we can't help each other without all the negativity most times

Very nice they are too, the members I interact with on line and those I have met at meet ups are no nonsense, intelligent women whom offer advice or a kick up the arse as needed,!
Netmums is that way ✈

AIBU to think people should stop posting AIBU threads where they aren't actually asking AIBU?

Mumsnet is great but AIBU is scary. I like the chat section and some more specific boards for questions or support.

It is really frustrating, that nothing is ever taken at face value. That you mean what you type rather than something completely different

There is always people saying ''So what you are saying is...' and twisting what you are saying to their own agenda whilst chomping for an argument with a stranger. Seriously have some peeps got nothing better to do, I am assuming the ladies on here are MUMS, yet they fill their time trying to snipe at strangers....Hmmm

I find it strange.

I didn't realise the aibu part was for people to snark I will check out the other boards

AIBU is a joke topic. If people posted in the right topic they would get some proper replies. But they want the 'traffic'. Better to have one decent reply in the right topic IMO.

I am assuming the ladies on here are MUMS

Well that's your first mistake. There are plenty of men and women on here that aren't parents. More to the point, are people supposed to be gooey and Hun the place down just because they gave birth?

I have been at the receiving end and trust me op it does make you better most of the time.
When I don't give a damn about someone's feelings, I don't go to their thread to post something nice or nasty. Exceptions are every where and you can always report. But I think YABU for thinking that strangers saying harsh things to another stranger on an Internet forum generally mean bad. They don't. It's far easier to say some of these things on here than in real life and I think it's a big help majority of the times.

Seriously have some peeps got nothing better to do, I am assuming the ladies on here are MUMS, yet they fill their time trying to snipe at strangers....Hmmm

I must point out that I was rather a soft and socially quite confused person until I became a mum. Mums are among the toughest materials on the face of earth I reckon. Rightly so too. I think science says it too that the brains of mothers adopt to be more socially smart (and direct and courageous and focused in my case ) so they could fight off potential threats to their children. That's what this world is about.

Diana,
Lol I love your line ''are people supposed to be gooey and Hun the place down just because they gave birth?'' very descriptive.

No I think Mothers are warriors, will fight for the right reasons, fight for the safety of their children etc but I do expect mothers to have more important things to deal with than trying to make a complete stranger feel like rubbish on the internet - obvs I am wrong

What was your thread about?

The best bet is to just stick to the relevant topics. So if your AIBU question is about housekeeping, post it in Housekeeping. If you have a question about baking, post it in Baking. Don't say "AIBU to call a fairy cake a cupcake?" and put it in AIBU. People who answer posts in specific, subject-relevant boards are nice and normal and informative. They just want to help, not scrap.

I see the thread has gone cold.

Peggy you must be very new to MN you haven't realised that lots of MNers aren't Mums. Some of them aren't even Dads.

Also even those that are Mums don't all have babies or very small children.

Some have older kids who entertain themselves quite happily, teenagers who are out and about or adult DC who have left home.

So they might all have plenty of time to MN without neglecting their children.

The other thing to consider is that not all MNers are in the same time zone. There are MNers posting from all over the world.

It might be middle of the day for you but evening for them.

MN is a wonderful resource, I've learned so much about other people's lives. But you have to be open to it. And to the fact that other people's lives are entirely different from yours.

Exactly Hassled. Some posters never venture out of AIBU.