To send DD back to school?

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DD (year 4) doesn't like Fridays and complains every Friday morning. This morning, she was claiming to be ill and hankering for a day of school. She looked fine and ate all her breakfast, but she was still saying she was too ill for school. I said no, if you're that ill the school office will send you home.
10:30 am I get a call from her school saying she went to the office feeling really sick and could I pick her up. I go to collect her, she acts sick while we're in the office and car, but as soon as she arrives home, she says she's hungry and asks for a snack, then starts cartwheeling around outside. She then gloats about missing most of a Friday. WIBU to take her back to school saying she's not ill?

I would keep her in bed. no books, no electronic devices etc... just in bed to sleep as she is so unwell.
As she is also complaining that she was sick, then I would give her the most bland food you can find.
because that what pope do when they have a bad stomach bug.

then tomorrow, I would have a very serious chat about lying and (see the story of the little boy who cried wolf) the effect it can have.

And I would go and see her teacher n Monday and have a char about it.

Ricotta I disagree, why would they dislike books? They aren't being used as a punishment!

When I was a child, and as I do with my DD, it was seens as if you're too ill to go to school, you need to be resting but if you want to stave off boredom, then you can read a book, as it requires very little energy and anything else would require you to get out of bed and you need to rest to recover. If you feel up to doing anything more and you are well enough to get out of bed to play, you're well enough to get out of bed and go to school. Obviously for me that was before tablets/games consoles etc but it just means that now with the advent of technology that can be played in bed, I have extended it for my DD to include screentime as one of the things that are not appropriate when she is supposed to be resting.

Strict rules in this house. If you're off school ill you spend all day in bed with no electronics and very plain food. You can read or do school work. If DC are really sick they don't mind and if they're not they're soon begging to do to school. Unsurprisingly mine are hardly ever off school

As she is gloating I'd take her back because she knows she was trying it on.
If she'd just recovered quietly then I'd give her a boring day in bed.

But I'm mean.

PS my 7 year old did not.like Fridays because of exactly what Casz suggested re fish. She now has a packed lunch on Fridays.

Yep, straight back to school. And yes as others have said, boring days off if sick. (Unless clearly contagious, broken bones etc!)

Agree with trying to get the bottom of why she hates Fridays. But on the other hand, it sounds like she has you around her little finger. If she's sent home sick, then surely no snacks, straight to bed with a sick bowl (even if just for a few hours) and no electronics, definitely not playing outside.

I would rather keep her home and use this day to get to know what she is enjoying and what she is not enjoying about Fridays Have you never felt worried, anxious, overwhelmed or whatever and taken a day off school or work
Is this a general issue, for example is she bright and the school classroom is stifling and boring for her? Or is it challenging, for some reason?
Is this only a Friday issue, for example is there a particular teacher she feels uncomfortable with on fridays ? Has anything happened she felt uncomfy with?

Punishing Kids for Lying Only Makes Them Lie More

OP - did you take her back in? I would!

I wordered if she may be anxious. This feeling can come and go.

I hope you didn't take her back in.

I find quite a hard attitude on here sometimes. School is not an easy place for all children. The days are too long and way too much pressure is put on youngsters.

Maybe by Friday your daughter has had all she can cope with.

Spend some quality time with her and get to the bottom of the problem.

I'd suspect the PE lessons - that's the age where children's bodies start to change, and also they start to become more complex socially. Maybe she feels self-conscious, or there is some sort of teasing going on. I'd have a conversation about it.

Mine doesn't like Fridays because it is Fish and Chips day.

I haven't been able to take DD back. I phoned the school to explain what's been happening and they said that they can't let DD back today as she looked ill to them and they can't be sure she hasn't vomited
I've had a chat with DD but haven't got much out of her, I'll talk to her class teacher on Monday. I'm letting her be downstairs but she isn't allowed to watch the TV and is looking really bored!

Do you do something fun on a Friday? I'm a head of year and I had a pupil who was always 'ill' on her mums day off. She just wanted to be at home with mum. Mum fixed it by the two of them doing an activity together to give themselves some time together.

Also, when is her teachers ppa time? Maybe she has an issue with the cover teacher?

I would take her back. No question.

I would try to get to the bottom of what was different about Fridays, but yes, she would absolutely be going back in, no matter how embarrassing she found it.