Dd sending stupid texts

[thunderbuddy]

Sigh

I was using dds phone to watch a vlog on youtube as she has unlimited data and her messages popped up asking her to stop texting someone and that it wasn't the person she thought it was.

DD has some additional needs and is fairly immature for her age (just 14) and has form for adding and talking to people she doesn't know in the past so alarm bells rang.

I checked her messages and she has been texting two boys from school after someone gave her their numbers, she's just basically been sending daft messages, just sometimes gobbledegook or daft stuff about a girl who likes him. Both boys asked her to stop texting but she didn't, one threatened to report her at school and the other said stop texting him and he was blocking her.

I'm not impressed tbh that she carried on texting after they said stop.

Do I admit I snooped?

thunderbuddy if you pay the bills you are allowed to snoop. It is your phone in your name!

Rather than calling it snooping call it checking, and explain why you do it, so she doesn't do this kind of thing and get into trouble at school/with boys/girls/class mates for these kinds of shenanigans.

I've told my dd I will check her phone whenever I like, and I do. I have also told her she can check my phone too. I have no secrets at all.

If she is not happy to have you look at her phone, fine, you won't pay the bill. You will get her a cheapo one for emergencies etc.

Why don't you delete the boys numbers for starters?

I'm sure you can buy a brick and set it to incoming calls only (can't remember how to do it). Then you can phone her at the end of the school day. If no bus, go and pick her up. I would do this for the next couple of years as she clearly isn't mature enough for her to have control over her own communications.

I've already deleted them Cream. A 'friend' of hers sent her the numbers and told her to 'spam' them and dd being the bloody fool she is did do...