To think that if you google-map someone's house, you shouldn't tell them

[Mingewithafringe]

I used to work with a girl who for some reason used to blow hot and cold with me and I felt like she used to compete with me: For this reason I really didn't trust her very much when we worked together and I tolerated her.

She left, had kids, and I don't know if it was the maternal aspect of having children but she became a bit nicer and since then we've exchanged messages on Facebook here and there which have been fine.

I've moved house very recently. She facebook-messaged me out of the blue on the weekend and asked me how I had been etc, I replied (as you do) that I had been busy with moving house but so glad to be unpacked and settled now. She congratulated me and asked me for my address so that she could send a card.

I thought "oh that's sweet" and sent her my address, a few minutes later I get another message saying "nice. I like that type of brick". I replied "haha how do you know" and she replied saying she had put the address into google maps with a winking emoji.

I haven't replied to that message but part of me wants to tell her to stuff her greeting card as I think she only said that to get my address and to compare my new house to hers, she obviously hasn't changed much at all.

Aibu to think that googling someone's address is not normal, or is this an acceptable thing now?? Or do most people do it and therefore should I be grateful that she's been honest rather than sly! I would hazard a guess that she's been on rightmove too to see what we paid

Geillis- aw that's quite cute that you want to see where your stuff is going to live :)

I don't think it's rude. I think you are reading into things. She's just having a nose.

Agree. I would have done the same and also love a good floor plan

I guess it's more normal than I think then! I don't think I'd mind if someone that I don't have any history of weirdness with, I just felt like she searched it just to see if I lived in a nicer or bigger house than her, rather than because she likes properties or looking at different designs of houses. I won't talk about what sort of stuff she used to do at work to make me think she was competing with me as I when I write it down it looks really petty and ridiculous!!

I'm not holding my breath for a card

I see looking at businesses to plan your journey or gather your bearings as completely different, but maybe it isn't.

I think that's probably a fairly normal response by most people to being given a new address. Our computer crashes on google earth half the time so I wouldn't bother, but wouldn't bother me if people did.

Then she makes a nice comment about your house., so your conclusion is she's jealous or competitive.

Sometimes I wonder if conversation will have ceased in 100 years because no one will dare say anything for fear of offending someone.

Having a nose is normal, telling you she has looked is a bit weird imo.

And she likes that type of brick? What an odd thing to say.

Love a good old google street view of people's houses. Probably wouldn't have said anything as it wouldn't cross my mind to tell the person I had looked at their house!

Every single Christmas I have to use google streetview to check the address of the people opposite our old house who we still exchange cards with. I know which house they live in but can never remember the number, so I use streetview to look at the number on their front door

I have to do the exact same thing! lol.

Street view lookers: Bare in mind to check the date (top left corner) of when the camera went round. The road we live in now, the road we lived in before and my mums street views are all nearly 9 year old. All properties look very different now.

I think looking is OK, but telling you is weird.

If it was a friend who just moved house I'd have a look and tell them it was lovely, and I wouldn't think it was rude or whatever. I think the issue is how you feel about her. Possibly she doesn't feel the same negative way back.

I love nosing round like that, but I wouldn't tell someone unless they'd actually sent me a rightmove link or something. But I find it interesting to know where people live - more so if I know I'm unlikely to ever go visit.
I certainly wouldn't do it for a comparison though - that's just sad.
And I do love a good floorplan