2nd AIBU of the day!!
I have a strained relationship with my dad, mostly because he sees things in such a simplistic view, so he will forever and always tell me how I SHOULD be doing things. He always puts me down in certain ways.
In my mind it just annoys me because he's full of "you should" kind of comments, but there's lots he hasn't done correctly. He's never helped me, and he wasn't around for my whole childhood and didn't pay anything towards my childhood.
He hates my mother (so do i-long story) but he's all for saying how she didn't do things properly.
It's always the small things that really bug me, like yesterday, I really called him for a bit of support, I've moved (3 1/2 months ago) I haven't been able to change drs surgeries.
I tell him DD has another throats infection so we're on the way to the drs.
Where I live is a nice new build estate, the five nearest gp surgeries are not taking on new patients, so I have to go to where we used to live which is an hour away.
He starts going on about it. I tell him well I have to take her to the drs, old dr is great. And I need to see if he can refer for her tonsils out (4th set of antibiotics since December)
So he starts going on about the school kicking up a fuss and how they will. She has so much time off of school. She does but I think when my child is in the state she has been she needs to be off. I don't always keep her off school but if she's got a fever and she's crying and not eating or sleeping properly I can't send her in.
So I make my excuses and get off the phone.
I then text him to say that the Dr has said DD needs to have tonsils out, she's got a v bad case of tonsilitis.
He texts back telling me I have to get a drs in the area. Try his. Ring them in the morning. It's because it's taken me so long to get her to Drs.
She was only symptomatic from the day before.
There's a lot of things like this,
When I needed to move but couldn't save the money- Just fucking get out of there he tells me. Not that easy if you are paying your rent plus trying to save plus moving costs.
Having issues with one of my clients being a bit needy- just quit. Fuck it off. Not worth the money...... he lives in this world where I can just give up my only remaining client after my move and chuck away £600 a month.
It always seems so easy for him. He's always of the belief that things are that simple.
I keep quiet, but I'm growing fed up of him constantly knowing the right and the best things to do, despite him not ever facing any of the same challenges.
Please someone tell me how to deal with this,
I've gotten to a point where I feel like he hates every decision that I make and ultimately hates me because I am my mothers child. Just when it seems to get better, he gets like this.