To be upset about finding out DP & his ex have matching tattoos...

[Libby34]

Ok so the tattoos do symbolise the child they have together. But I just had no idea his ex had it too. I've just seen a photo on fb, and it's in exactly the same place too. I know I probably sound mental but for some reason it's really upset me. AIBU? Should I tell him? Or just let it slide

Let it slide. Everyone has a history

Let it slide. It's before he met you.

I know I know.. thanks ladies.

I'd be upset too, OP, if that helps.
Unfortunately there is (practically literally) nothing to be done about ut.
The feeling of upset will fade

YANBU in any case except the shared child one, I think. They did do that together, just the two of them.

Look, they share a child. That's way more significant than a tattoo, but it didn't put you off. It's history. Forget about it.

I would feel exactly as you do.

But, seriously, let it go. Everybody has a past.

Rising above it will demonstrate your relationship is bigger than your previous history.

I would feel the same too, but you have to let it go x

I would assume that having a child together is more significant than matching tattoos.

My XP has a tattoo dedicated to me on his arm.
Idiot.
I have less than no feelings for him, nor him me.
You could always suggest a redesign, not to obliterate it but change its appearance without losing the meaning.

I'd only be arsed if I didn't know and my partner had asked me to get the same tattoo!!
It's a bit poo but what can you do?

Oh god i would hate this if I'm honest 😩

Although for some reason if he had her name, it would be slightly worse

They have a child together so what's a tattoo really

They're bound together for life by their shared child. The tattoo is just a helpful visual sign of that in case you happen to forget.

I know of a couple that have tattoos that fit together when they stand side by side..... That tbh would be worse

Trying to make you feel better op

I think I feel worse because I've suggested before that we got a tattoo to symbolise "us" (never actually happened!) and now I feel a bit of a boob.

I'm quite aware they have a child together, and definitely don't need a tattoo to remind me

Haha, yes tattoos that join up would be much worse!! Got to be thankful for something I guess 😁