To hate fancy dress?

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I've been asked to a fancy dress party. It's a 50th birthday party. Aibu to think this is a pain in the arse? I'm away with work for much of the time between now and then and to be honest have too many other things on my plate. This particular couple seem to think it's fun to dress up for everything- no one I have spoken to seems to think this is fun. They would be offended if I didn't go. Most people are of the opinion it's an extra hassle for those of us that live in the real world. AIBU and mean?

I get few opportunities to put a posh frock on and glam up a (tiny little) bit, so I hate to have to waste an opportunity and to go to all the extra expense and effort just to look stupid.

The thought of hiring skanky costumes that you don't know who's worn them before slightly creeps me out too.

I also hate them, everyone looks like an absolute twat and you have to make an effort to get an outfit you won't wear again.

What I hate about them is you never know how much everyone will commit. So you go dressed up in full latex cat suit and everyone else turns up in a superhero t-shirt slightly bitter

yanbu

fancy dress is the worst

YANBU I hate fancy dress and always have, even as a child.

It's disco theme so not horrendous just a pain in the arse. Exactly as someone else said extra expense to look stupid! I just don't know if they think everyone loves it but at the gym I go to everyone just bitches about them saying what a pain it is.

Absolutely hate them! Like another poster said I hardly ever go out for nights out. So when I do I like to get dressed up nice. Not in a stupid costume that I will wear once and it's cost a fortune.

Yanbu. What's wrong with just getting dressed up to look nice?! That's got just as much novelty factor for me.

I hate it. I hate the waste and the environmental impact of buying tatty stuff from china that will then be binned. I don't do disposable clothing- I buy items that last.

I hate dressing up.I would either decline or just go in my own clothes.

I used to love fancy dress when I was younger but the appeal has worn off as I've got older and have more demands on my time. Now it's just too much effort and expense for the sake of the "reveal" element during the first 20-30 minutes of the party. Once you've acknowledged someone's costume there's not really much more to say about it and you just spend the rest of the party with everyone gradually shedding wigs/accessories/awkward additional appendages etc.

I loathe it + dh loves it = inevitable fancy dress argument
Every. Single. Time.

When will he accept I don't like it, I don't want to talk about it, I don't want to wear it, I don't want to plan it, and I DEFINITELY don't want to 'just' sew this bit of costume for him. Fucker. And somehow I'm in the wrong for not getting in the spirit of things.

To be fair to him, I used to enjoy it, but it's been at leat 15 years since the last time I found it fun or amusing for more than ten seconds before the groaning and dreading it set in.

Yanbu.

Hate them (seems appropriate)

the last one I went to was a dress-up-as-a-chav party, and it was great fun.

Sorry but I think that's absolutely awful. I'm quite shocked.

YANBU - organised fun is shit

We used to have to wear fancy dress at work twice a year at my old job. I have a phobia of people in costume and it used to make me anxious and miserable. YANBU.

I hate them too. Waste of money. I would decline the invite.

I'd rather go to the dentist.

Thanks everyone for your replies - so glad it's not just me!! Organised fun is exactly what it is - this couple also have organised games every time anyone is invited round. The people who have known them a long time seem happy to go along with this but it just makes me quiet and seem quite miserable. I love going out for a good chat and catch up with old friends but I seem to suffer some social meltdown when confronted with organised fun!!

Oh no. They're doing 'party games' as well? We have friends who do this. We've declined invitations to their parties too. Why do they need to do 'getting you know you party games' ..... when we've all known each other for 20+ years?

I'm happy to play board games with a group of friends but not general party games, the absolute worst being hen party ones. As for murder mystery evenings, those are as bad. I go to parties to drink and chat and don't like anything that prevents me chatting.

this couple also have organised games every time anyone is invited round

I have an aunt like this. She sneaks games in even at other people's parties. Singsongs and sports. How she lived to be over 60 is a mystery. We have all had moments of murderous rage when she started. Stick your left arm under your right knee and grab your right neighbour's nose for a dance! C'mon everybody, fun, fun fun! She is keen on fancy dress, too.

YANBU, hate fancy dress and I just don't go. Then there's no stress of finding a costume or looking silly.

What would offend more - not going because you hate fancy dress or not going in fancy dress?

And is there any chance that fancy dress may be optional?

Go as a chauffeur, as Trigger did.