Parent and child parking! 12 and 9 year old?!

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Just had a row with a woman in Tesco car park. I waited 15 minutes for parking - have to carry a fairly solid 6 month old to the shop (post cesarean - still not 100%!)

Anyway, this family were parked in child and parent bay with a 12 year old and a 9 year old. Both very capable of walking and opening doors! I commented that she was rude to park there, she said she was entitled to. Then her husband complained about me to the management!!!

Wtf!? Ainu??! Parent and child surely means young child that needs assistance??!

Sisterhood?
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How about putting other people's greater needs before your own.

Sorry but do you do this always 100% of the time then?

Well, I do remember feeling like it was difficult at the time my kids were babies. But they are grown, it's a helluva lot harder, for different reasons. And I kind of think 'what about the sisterhood' right back at the people complaining about parents with older kids, using the spaces

If their needs are greater than mine. Hell yeah

Putting an older child temporarily in the front seat doesn't alter the size of a baby car seat !

I only said women because the site is called mumsnet, but sorry, I should have said parents. I also said I wouldn't have said anything to this family, and actually I wiuld ever bother say anything even if it was someone without kids, it's not really worth it as you never know how people will react.

I really don't think a few ladies disagreeing with a few others on the internet in a civilised manner is going to bring feminism crashing down around our ears and it's also churlish to say so.

Come on StillStayingClassy TheSisterhood ... those women who fall over themselves to comply with the wishes demands of the other woman with the loud voice and princess attitude!

I accept I could be wrong but the only place I see P and C places is at supermarkets.
How do all the people whinging cope in a multi story or town/city car parks?
Must be awful.

Blanche oh that sisterhood .

Like the OP who mocked the woman driver for her weight?

I have dcs under 12 and have not used them for years because my kids are very able bodied and i would be embarrassed to do so. How about putting other people's greater needs before your own.

Eh?

My autistic son is very able bodied. It doesn't stop him from having no perception of danger and running into the path of a car without looking first though.
We've done the reins the whole thing but there's always going to be the one day where he wiggles free, hes quite strong when he needs to be.

Also, everything Piglet said.

whathaveilost they're not there. They'll be found at the nearest sainsbos hiding in the shadows ready to pounce on anyone who dares use a P&C space.

Molly -- OP patrolled the parking lot for 15 minutes, waiting for a P&C spot she righteously felt that she is entitled to, and then got out of her car to "have a row" with the couple who parked there!!! And this is not the first time she complained! What kind of person does that?! It's a PARKING SPOT! It's not worth 15 min of patrolling and a shouting match with other pp and multiple complaints to management! Do you really not understand why some of us may not want to encourage OP's behavior? Or are you just trying to sound nice?

That right... the Fatso should have remembered TheSisterhood and moved her car and brood of NotChildlikeEnough... then all shall be well, and all shall be well and all manner of thing shall be well.... as that lovely woman Julian of Norwich said (or is that another thread and another forum? )

I agree that the OP's reaction was over the top, I was more responding because some people seemed to be saying that it's ok for anyone to park there because it's not against the law to do so - which I'm sure is the case, I just think it's inconsiderate. Again, I do of of course realise that the spaces are a convenience and not a necessity. I think I'll shut up now!

Well, we only stopped using them for our now 13 and 10 year olds in the past few years, but they have SN and DS2 is still in a specialist harnessed seat, which is a faff to fasten him into properly. He's got a little better at walking without suddenly sitting down or leaping off, now, though, so we can generally just find a quiet bit of the car park to park in and not worry so much about him testing out his death wish while we're laden with shopping on the way back to the car.

I think a pretty fair rough and ready rule for the parent and child spaces is if you have a kid who needs strapping into a harnessed carseat by an adult and/or you have a child who can't be relied on to walk safely by your side when you have your hands full of heavy trolley, so need a safer walk way to the car, then you need the P&C space. If you don't then you don't need the space.

Like the OP who mocked the woman driver for her weight?

I nearly did respond to the OP's comment about the other woman's weight but didn't. It was a disgusting comment IMO, as if weight had anything to do with parking in a parent and child space.....🙄

I have a toddler and I'm pregnant and it does annoy me when I see for example a 20 yr old with no 'obvious' disabilities parking in a parent and child space,

I get it about the car seats, I get it about the toddler seats, it's hard work in a normal space, and some times near impossible.

However,in the situation of there not being a spot I park on the edge of a parking space line (at the end of the row I mean) with the kids door pointing out so I can do what I need to do there, or park at the other end of the car park where it's quieter and get a trolley from a trolley bay on the way to the supermarket...

I do NOT start a fight with some one about their lack of rights to use a space and I don't pick on some one about their weight either.

Just get on with your life you know, a bit of inconvience / frustration doesn't give you the right to start a row with some one.

11yo in parent/child parking is just ridiculous! And with the exception of thise with disabilities, people are being very obtuse over the purpose of these spaces.
My 10yo is more agile at getting out of a tight Parking space than I am.

However, waiting for15 mins for a space is just as ridiculous,! Just park at the furthest/quietest end of the car park, Chuck the car seat (if you must use one) into a trolley, and push it the relatively short distance to the shop.

I should also add that I have two chronic illnesses that affect my day to day living

But seriously just get on with your own life and stop getting all angsty about what other people have done.

11yo in parent/child parking is just ridiculous!

Well good job one of the DC was younger then isn't it.

*W h e r e I s The Op?

Oops

OP is guarding her P&C place for Monday's big shop.

It is lazy and out of courtesy I wouldn't park there unless I had a buggy or car seat to deal with it's just silly.

However my DH had wanted to park there when running in for something and leaving me and DS in the car! Technically not breaking the rules but ridiculous! He's a lovely person but obviously selfish sometimes not sure id have a go at someone about it... apart from my own DH lol and I'm not generally one to be worried about confrontation

I do think supermarkets should lower the age!

Lol paxillin