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To be slightly concerned about my husband?

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DizzyFizzyLizzy · 17/02/2017 22:11

DH is 31. He is a brilliantly clever guy, but also can be a bit of a worrier/deep thinker.

He's a lawyer and his job is very full on, stressful and busy. We also have a two year old daughter and one on the way. Life is busy. He's a great dad, very hands on and devoted to me and DD. He comes home for six to give DD her bath and he puts her to bed, then most nights he logs back in and works for another couple of hours. We do try to relax at the weekends.

He's had a hard couple of weeks at work. Big promotion opportunity coming up and various other things. I know he's under pressure. But he's started to do strange things. It's hard to explain.

For example, suddenly he often uses the wrong word in a sentence. Like he's thinking about something else and gets mixed up. He keeps walking into things. He put his car keys in the fridge the other day. He signed his own name instead of DDs when he dropped her at nursery earlier this week. Little things, but noticeable. Forgetting his PIN number. He's kind of laughing it off ("my brain has just given up the ghost") but I'm a wee bit worried. I don't quite know what I'm worried about. He won't see a GP, thinks I'm worrying about nothing. But he's a bit moodier/quieter than normal too.

He's had two bouts of work-related anxiety in the past, both managed by a stint on anti depressants. But this hasn't been an issue for around 5 years now, I think that's behind us now. It doesn't appear to be the same as that.

I just wanted to put it out there and ask if anyone has experienced this before. I'm not looking for a diagnosis or anything, I dunno.

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PissyBogRoll · 17/02/2017 23:14

Sounds like stress / lack of sleep. I get the same during a bad patch

Italiangreyhound · 17/02/2017 23:16

Dizzy sorry to hear this.

I had something similar, Just the same "Like he's thinking about something else and gets mixed up."

"He keeps walking into things." I do this a little bit.

Not sure I've put the car keys in the fridge but I have wondered if I've put things in the wrong place.

I went to GP and he said it was the brain moving too fast and lack of sleep etc. BUT I would get your dh to the doc. I think mental health and stress is too big a think to compromise. He should not need to work all these hours. Can he move to a quieter role or at least plan to move to a quieter role? Is he very ambitious.

His kids won't be young for long and he will miss out.

I'd recommend a trip to he doc to make sure it is not something more major. Look into less work stress and also some mindfulness, relaxation etc. You can help him but I do think the desire needs to come from home.

I do work from home and stay up very late! But I now try and incorporate some early nights into my schedule too!

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