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Original poster

To serve a takeaway to our visitors tonight?

71 replies

listsandbudgets · 17/02/2017 12:18

We have DD's friends parents coming for dinner and DD's friend is staying afterwards for a sleepover.

I was planning a lovely meal (roast beef with all trimmings followed by apple crumble and cream) but feeling very ill today and can't even cope with idea of getting dressed right now let alone cooking huge meal. I feel stiff and hurty and generally exhausted. Its nothing infectious - more side effects of medication I'm on which I recently had to increase dose of.

AIBU to serve them takeaway-we have a brilliant Turkish restaurant near us which we could easily get a meze and a big meat and rice platter from and there's some good ice cream in freezer....

but but but... I've never not cooked for my guests. It goes against all my instincts and I'm worried they'll think I'm really rude.

Right now feel I'll be doing well to shower, dress and empty the dishwasher

OP posts:
caffelatte100 · 17/02/2017 13:09

Yum, sounds good, Yes of course pay. I'm sure you'll have the chance to cook for them another time. But are you actually up to the evening?

MTWTFSS · 17/02/2017 13:09

I always feed my guests take away when they come round :)

chillx · 17/02/2017 13:15

I would feel happier that the host hadn't been slaving away in the kitchen all day for me. As a guest I'm happier for the host to spend more time with me than in the kitchen it always feels awkward when they keep popping in and out. Also there's no pressure for them to like your food as everyone knows you didn't cook it.

Hope you feel better as the day goes on so you can enjoy the evening.

ShowMePotatoSalad · 17/02/2017 13:19

YANBU. I too wouldn't ask them to pay for their meal. The only circumstances in which I would do that is if it were pre-planned and we'd all agreed to split the cost. Otherwise, I would pay.

The bigger issue is whether you are well enough to have them round. I would feel so awkward going to someone's house when they're ill.

Willow2016 · 17/02/2017 13:24

As long as you are able to cope with it all and not overdoing it by having everyone then do whatever suits. You can cancel if you are feeling bad, I am sure they would understand.

A meals a meal after all, this one is just different from what you planned, its still going to be a lovely evening with family.

mouldycheesefan · 17/02/2017 13:31

I would cancel the meal but say that the fri no could still come to the sleepover.
A takeaway is fine but if you feel rubbish it's best to get an early night rather than entertain visitors

TheOnlyColditz · 17/02/2017 13:37

As a veteran of side effects myself, I understand why you still want them to come - it's for company, yes? And this takeaway sounds delicious, and I would love it.

Katedotness1963 · 17/02/2017 13:44

Having a takeaway wouldn't bother me in the slightest, however, I'd be uncomfortable knowing you were feeling under the weather or in pain.

Gooseygoosey12345 · 17/02/2017 13:45

Yeah I would really enjoy that, I would just say as you've offered dinner it would be up to you to pay for it.

Original poster
listsandbudgets · 17/02/2017 14:15

I can't easily change the date. DD's friend lives 2 hours away (were best friends at school but family moved away) and her parents are staying in a hotel tonight so really important to dd and her friend that this goes ahead.

I've had a sleep and a shower and got dressed and managed to eat and feeling a bit better now. I had to increase my dose by a third last night (starting a new epilepsy drug on a gradually increasing dose) and I think its just upset my system :(

Not going to cook Turkish it is. I'd rather sleep so I can enjoy evening than peel and chop a vat of veg and potatos

OP posts:
Giddyaunt18 · 17/02/2017 14:37

Sounds lovely.I would think you should pay for it though obviously.

ChocoChou · 17/02/2017 15:58

Ooh I'd love that. Just make sure you have some wine in! Hope you feel better

EmeraldScorn · 17/02/2017 16:23

The takeaway choice sounds lovely, can I come?

rookiemere · 17/02/2017 17:36

Sounds delicious OP. Hope you feel better soon.

scaryteacher · 17/02/2017 17:36

The OP has already said she's paying!

Giddyaunt18 · 17/02/2017 18:03

I know scary I'm agreeing with her. Living up to your name there!

PatMullins · 17/02/2017 18:04

I would definitely go for that Smile

BaconMaker · 17/02/2017 18:12

Sounds good as long as you insist on paying. They'll probably be delighted - a roast is lovely but a nice Turkish meze is more of an unusual treat.

PatMullins · 17/02/2017 18:14

I'm so hungry now Angry

ScarlettFreestone · 17/02/2017 18:18

Sounds lovely I'm sure they'll enjoy it!

Oblomov17 · 17/02/2017 19:04

Have you text her to let her know?

"I'm so sorry, I've been so unwell that I haven't been able to cook. So will order a takeaway. Hope that's ok. But didn't want the cancel because I want to see you so badly. "

Wouldn't bother me. But I think you should tell her.

JoanofNark17 · 17/02/2017 19:10

Why would you need to warn someone and apologise that you are serving them lovely food someone else made instead of lovely food you made?
Confused

hollinhurst84 · 17/02/2017 19:12

I bloody wish someone would make any form of food for me. You could serve me cheese on toast and I would just be happy I hadn't had to make it 😂😂😂

HappyFlappy · 17/02/2017 20:05

So speaks any mother Hollinhurst

Grin
hollinhurst84 · 17/02/2017 20:09

When I go to my friends she used to be all "salad cream or mayo?"
"Do you like butter?"
"Do you mind tomatoes?"
Now she just shoves a plate of food in front of me. I will eat 99% of what I'm given anywhere 😂😂