To think this is suspicious...

[Blueberry55]

So a friend of a friend married their DW 18 months ago and they have a 10 month old DD. The wife works away a lot but recently when the wife was away, the husband was invited round for dinner and drinks with a female colleague (just the 2 of them). He attended, but decided not to tell his wife as she would only overreact.

Do you think he's cheating or looking for more from this female colleague? I personally do and am concerned by the route he is going down in lying to his wife but maybe I'm making a mountain out of a molehill, so to speak.

And who's to say when the wife is working away, she doesn't eat dinner alone with her colleagues?

Unless you have proof he ate her vagina, this whole thread is a bit ridiculous.

It will only be filled with uninformed opinions and anecdotes.

are you him op

Genuinely cannot see why it is any of your business or you are in any way involved unless you are the husband, the wife or the 'other woman'.

These are adults. They are grown up enough to make their own decisions and then deal with the consequences. If I was REALLY close to the guy, as in a sister I might ask if he was ok and say i was worried about the consequences and the same if I was related to the colleague. I suppose if I were related to the wife I might mention something in passing about him having dinner with a colleague. But your post doesn't read like you are this close to any of them.

Doesn't look good for the brand new marriage... He is making a conscious decision to lie by omission. Nothing yet has happened, but if this continues, something will. If you are his sister, you could try to talk some sense into him. If you are bff of DW... don't know what you advice you there...

It's difficult, but I would try & keep out of it if possible as you don't want to be collateral damage.

As in you don't want the friend blaming you in any way.

Any time anyone says "I didnt tell you because you would not understand or you would over react" is saying it because they know that their OH would understand perfectly and react in an entirely justified way. Anything that is acceptable in a relationship, and meeting a friend for dinner is fine, never needs to be lied about and if he is then its because he isnt just meeting a friend.

He is a lying shit and his wife deserves to know.

Who was looking after the 10 month old whilst he was out and his wife away?
Is this you? Is this how you are involved?

Any time anyone says "I didnt tell you because you would not understand or you would over react" is saying it because they know that their OH would understand perfectly and react in an entirely justified way.

This

Maybe when the wife works away a lot she meets men for diner and drinks too.

None of your business.

not your call.

Without knowing the individuals involved it's difficult to tell if his wife has a history of being controlling about him meeting up with friends and he wanted to avoid an argument or if she has a reason to be suspicious. Either way he should be honest as a lack of communication will only make underlying trusted issues worse but that's their business, I would stay out of it as much as possible, especially since you have no proof of wrongdoing.

I think you should stay well out of it. The busybody who intervenes never comes off well!