with my DH over my birthday??

[AnAngelWithin]

Ok so its my birthday at the weekend. DH has promised for ages that he's going to take me out. We've had a rough time since he was made redundant last year but now he has got a job and things are back on track. Anyway, on sunday he said that he was going to ask his mum to babysit and we will go out. I've seen a nice outfit I want to buy, nothing expensive but just something to make me feel a bit less mumsy. So last night I asked him if we are going out and he said that we were. When I asked where, he said............

TO HIS MUMS FOR TEA???? WTF?? IS HE JOKING??? I'M FUMING!!

Surely he is joking??

bang him over the head with a frying pan and book a restaurant yourself! Men!

Come and join us on Kbear Lemon Drizzle Mars Day!!!

sorry but I pmsl when I read that.

in all seriousness though, if he is for real i'd be bloody fuming too

so his mum's coming to your house to babysit and you're going to his mum's for tea?

Is his mum babysitting?

Is he planning a surprise and you are all going to his mum's for tea, then he'll whisk you off somewhere exotic for the evening, leaving the kids with her?

If not, you are not being unreasonable, he's being a twunt.

Oh I would be soooo cross. UNless has he organised a surorise party at his Mum's for you( Forever the optimist!)

nope unfortunately he's not joking.

hopefuly its a joke and he will have something fab planned. Phone his mum and ask her if you should bring anything, she may let something slip.

Mmm! If you haven't decked DH now....
Maybe suggest the kids go to your Mums overnigth - and you two stay at home - he can cook, or even get a take away (I appreciate you said funds were tight!).

he knows i hate surprises so there better not be a party!!

I wouldn't care if it was just a bag of chips on the riverside you know, but c'mon.....tea at his mums house??

good idea wurly. will do that!!

oh dear god.. no
kick him in the gonads

AnAngelWithin - share your thoughts wholeheartedly about not liking idea of a surprise party.

Some thoughtfulness into the idea of time together, even inexpensively, would make my heart soar, however.

That one who wrote the book about Men are from Mars and Women are from Venus was so right.

What is wrong with them just listening to our wistful thoughts along the lines of 'wouldn't it be lovely if we could.........' and then click penny drops, 'this is what she would really like'

I am such a dreamer to think my dh will ever listen. He will probably keep on buying expensive things I don't want thinking I'll be delighted. Wish you better luck!

ok have just rung MIL and she asked what i would like for my tea....AAAAAARRRRRRGGGGGGHHHH!!

OH MY GOD!
Poor you.
Quickly book a table at anexpensive restaurant NOW!!!!

Accept the tea graciously; it's a sweet offer from your MIL.

Give your dh a big hug and tell him "You are so CLEVER, a nice family tea all together is exactly what I would love, before you and I go out for the evening, and the kids will LOVE staying over the night. THANK you, darling. And isn't your mother a TREASURE, not only babysitting but doing me a birthday tea as well...."

Now I know you're not living in the 1950's and don't speak to your DH like that but you get the gist. That way you are being gracious, not negative at all and hopefully are shaming them into offering what you're assuming they are!!

sunnysideup - I like your style

Be 'ill' on the day. Retire to bed, and ask for a constant stream of hot water bottles, cups of tea, etc. Have a secret stash of Mars bars. Send him to get you some magazines. Ring friends. Have all your meals sent up.

Better than tea with his Mum.

why thank you twinkling

Love your name, btw.

AARRRRRRRGHHHH!!! i would rather stick my head in frogspawn than do this!! she will be doing pass the parcel next!!!

AnAngelWithin - did you buy the outfit?

nope. I'm filing for divorce instead.

Angel - are you being serious? {{hugs}}