To be angry my mum forgot my daughters birthday

[sammyjayneex]

So my 4th daughter turned 5 today. My Mum hasn't even phoned or anything to wish her happy birthday. I know she's forgot her own granddaughters birthday and I know if she had remembered she would have said happy birthday I know that but arnt grandmothers supposed to remember? She's in her 40s and isn't at work or anything Today so she's just forgot. She did the same with my 3rd daughter.. she forgot her birthday on the 29th December and didn't even phone to say happy birthday I didn't even bother reminding her. I know we just had Xmas at the time so I just put it down to the busyness of the year but this time there is just no excuse and it's annoyed me. I don't expect presents or a card but to at least acknowledge it. I don't know if I'm being unreasonable in being angry, I have distanced myself from her recently due to some things I am angry at her about and maybe I'm just taking this a bit personal because of the other things. Am I being unreasonable and wouldn't you just i it remind her or would you say something?

As her*

Sounds like your mum is a bit thoughtless and maybe selfish which must hurt all you want is for her to remember and she isnt remembering her own daughter never mind grandchildren which is a real shame

She's in her forties so presumably working? Full time? With multiple grandchildren's birthdays to remember. Ok, so perhaps there are those amongst us who can genuinely say we have never forgotten a close birthday but I know I have-or at least only remembered it because it's been mentioned to me (or Facebook told me!!) My Mum forgot three of her grandchildren's birthdays back in August (two of mine and one of my brothers all have the same birthday which is expensive....) but she remembered the next day and was soooo full of remorse and was mortified! Kids loved it as they each got special guilt gifts from Nana

Had my mum not reminded me of a significant birthday in the family on Saturday, I would have forgotten. You're her daughter, give her a reminder. I personally can't keep up with the 10 children's birthday in my family and often forget to look at the online diary. I set reminders when I put the dates on, they've disappeared for some reason.