AIBU to think that some people love posting rude replies to wind people up?

[Dixiestamp]

I only usually read/post on AIBU and I know some people can be a bit 'full on', but this is AIBU after all. I posted on another board earlier, which is fairly lighthearted, and someone replied in a really rude way, basically trying to make me look stupid and assuming I know nothing (when I'm actually very experienced in the matter being discussed). I know I am probably being a bit of a wimp and a bit U, as I guess you have to expect this; people can say what they like behind a pseudonym, with no thought for the person on the other end. It just upset me a bit (I know, I know- man up). I've even name changed - how pathetic is that?! It just annoyed me and I didn't expect to be so annoyed/upset by it. (NB won't mention the thread as the poster will know what I'm talking about if they read this).

It's REALLY NICE that the internet thinks you're lovely. It's really horrid when the internet hates you.

See I'm completely indifferent because it's just the internet.

It would be awful if my friends, family and colleagues all hated me, because they actually know me

But fuck bothering what anonymous people think they know about you. To me that would be really weird and a waste of energy.

I hope I've never posted a rude reply, but I will admit that I've been tempted to on many, many occasions.

In my opinion, at least half the threads posted on AIBU aren't actual genuine AIBUs. They are so one sided that I reckon the OP isn't actually genuinely asking, but is actually just having a whinge.

OR, and I reckon this happens a lot, the OP hasn't stated the facts correctly. Often it's just an angry beat-up on someone else, and it annoys me that so many people spend so much time offering their responses that take the OP at face value.

So often threads boil down to one of two alternatives:
a) the OP is so clearly NBU there's no need to ask
b) the OP is bullshitting.

Yes they do.

But I know I sound blunt some times when I don't mean to be. It's how it comes across some times and then I read it back after I've posted it and get my tin hat out.

I agree Toad

Or

C) There is some truth to it but the OP has over egged the pudding completely - rendering any replies useless because they're kind of playing MNetters like a fiddle, in order to get the replies they want.

An example would be a fairly average exchange of words with a supermarket cashier, that makes you think either one could BU. But the OP adds 'The cashier 'sneered' at me'. Or 'the cashier screamed at me'.

It just makes me think that if they have to engineer the replies they want to hear in that way, they were probably definitely the unreasonable one.

Or they could write a whole opening post in which everyone clearly thinks the OP is BU, but they'll end with "And then the man made a sexist comment" - which again gets the whole of Mumsnet on their side regardless.

I do love Mumsnet!

Yes. There was a distrussing one where someone 's puppy got run over and her neighbour stopped talking to her over it. There were a few nasty replies saying op was at fault and deserved it answer said she didn't seem upset

I don't know why this thread is still here quite frankly. Even by TAAT standards it very unpleasant.

This is a joke, right?

I've just opened a thread and closed it again without posting because the only replies that came into my head were despairing ones that sometimes women are so fucking stupid and forgiving over men who don't appear to have any redeeming qualities at all, and while that's true it's not exactly helpful to the OP's situation.

It actually can be in a way though Page

If not to the OP, to other women lurking.

It's REALLY NICE that the internet thinks you're lovely. It's really horrid when the internet hates you.

See I'm completely indifferent because it's just the internet.

It would be awful if my friends, family and colleagues all hated me, because they actually know me grin

Then why post on here for opinions????
But fuck bothering what anonymous people think they know about you. To me that would be really weird and a waste of energy.

sorry, cut-n-paste fail... the last two sentences were not posted by me, but were the last two lines of the italics above! Sorry!

What is troll hunting?

True Worra. Might go back tomorrow if I can compose something less unhelpful after a night's keep (if I ever fricking get to sleep ).

Puddle I don't post on here asking for opinions

Least of all "Does the internet love or hate me"

I'm sure the internet loves all MNers, Worra however my DH will hate me if I don't get off my arse and do some of the things I said I was going to do today!

I agree that you get to recognise some names and can avoid them. I worry when I think a poster is attacking someone who is vulnerable, but generally just assume the nasty poster is being a cunt.

Joke? No I was being quite serious.

Then perhaps you could explain what you mean Ilove because it makes no sense whatsoever.

In particular, how is it unpleasant?