I don't know whether I'm being unreasonable or not but my mother is getting on my nerves over me breastfeeding my baby. She's a real earth mother type, had drug free births, followed attachment parenting when i was a baby when they're wasn't really a name for it, breastfed my sister until she was a toddler.
My first little girl was born 4 years ago and I just presumed I would breastfeed however it didn't work out. I expressed for her and topped up with formula but she was a very challenging baby, always had difficulty feeding even from a bottle and was slow to gain weight so at 3 weeks I switched completely to formula. This whole experience left me feeling guilty, inadequate and very down for a long time.
Fast forward to now, my 2nd baby was born 8 months ago, again I tried to breastfeed and this time it went great. We had trouble at the start, she had a tongue tie released and her latch took a while to improve but since that we've been flying it. Anyway my mum has been weird about the breastfeeding since the start and it's getting my back up, when dd2 was about 2 weeks old she wanted to come over to the house to see the baby feeding. At this stage we had just had the tie snipped, feeding was still very painful (one deformed and cracked nipple) and I had to practically undress for each feed. There's no way I wanted an audience. She makes comments all the time, any time she's holding the baby she asks is she hungry and says oh I've nothing left for you, my milk's all dried up. Even now I was on the phone to her and the baby was shouting a bit, she goes does she need a little suck. These kind of comments are character, aren't you get you know when she's tired, had a dirty nappy eyc, i never knew what to do just popped you on the boob. I'm very comfortable breastfeeding anywhere and in front of anyone except her. If I'm feeding dd2 in front of my mum she stares over, says suck suck suck, only talks about breastfeeding, she can't just ignore it and carry on a normal conversation like everyone else.
She also keeps saying to me that it's amazing and I should be proud of myself where 8 months on I'm just following the easy option, I had such a rough time with dd1 and it was such a struggle that I feel much prouder of overcoming those obstacles.
She's probably just trying to relive that part of her life but it makes me so uncomfortable, I avoid feeding in front of her at all now. I can't imagine saying anything to get, I don't want to hurt her feelings but I feel there's so much mite to raising a baby than the easy they're fed