WIBU to tell my Mum her house smells?

[NoCapes]

My Mum is amazing - brilliant Grandmother, does absolutely loads for us, I see her almost daily and she genuinely is my best friend
So this isn't anything to do with a bad relationship at all
We go to her house every week for dinner and my children stay over quite often
Only problem is when they/we get home we absolutely stink of grease/cooking/chip fat kind of smell
A few times when she's been to mine or we've been out I can smell it on her/her clothes too
She's a very proud woman and I know she would be utterly horrified to know that she smelled

She has one of those acti-fryer things so I used to think it was that, but a few times recently she hasn't used it and we still smell
She doesn't use her over the cooker fan thingy (the name has completely escaped me) because it's a small kitchen and it's really loud so this could possibly be the problem?

Now my house isn't exactly spotless and we have a dog so I don't know if it's a bit rich coming from me, but I'm certain people leaving my house don't have a lingering smell and I hate to think that anyone thinks my Mum isn't very clean because she really really is
But I don't want to upset her atall and I don't want to seem ungrateful that she provides us a meal every single week because I really am very grateful, hence why I haven't said anything so far
But after another night of having to shower all 3 kids and put all of our clothes including coats and the babies bag through the wash when we got home I'm wondering whether I should

So...do I tell her? And how???

Yes tell her.

I'd say... mum I don't know why because you're so clean (and cleaner than me) but I've noticed me n the kids always smell of food when we've been here you probably won't notice because you're so used to your house like I am at mine with the dog. Shall we check if your extractor fan isn't working?

That's exactly how I'd word it.

If you have a fab relationship which you do don't worry it won't affect that just make an effort to be empathetic and overly nice about it and she'll know it's with the best intentions. If She dismisses your comment I'd then say well I've noticed it on you out of the house and wouldn't want anyone to think you don't have a clean house because you do.

Good luck let us know how it goes either way x

Thank you, thank you. Takes a bow. No idea whether it was due to it being an after school job or that it wasn't in the UK and the air con system wasn't shite

Surely a job for a tactless child. They get away with stuff like that all the time.

It might be because she is drying her clothes close to where she is cooking?

I know when I cook certain things the clothes go straight in the wash as the smell sticks.

And often I have clothes drying on the kitchen radiator, if I forget to move them when cooking they need washing again.

I worked in BK as a teen, you do stink if you work in the kitchen, no so much if on the tills.

Irrelevant, but I can remember coming out of a 3 hour A Level exam to the complaints of a friend who'd had the misfortune to be placed behind a girl who had a job in a chippie... every time she flicked her long hair, my friend got the distracting wafts of fish and chips

If you think the issue can be well received, then it's worth a mention.

Sadly my DM has no sense of smell after 50+ years of smoking, a large hoard of clutter, and 5 cats... It's not worth mentioning the smell of missed litter trays as she's beyond decluttering herself and will absolutely not allow anyone else to intervene