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AIBU?

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Ainu or is dp ?

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Excelsior1664 · 14/02/2017 03:44

Hi

We split the night time care of dc into two shifts. Today is a non working day for dp and it's now 3:40 am I keep getting sent back as I can't have settled him properly . I asked dp if they could take over as I have work at 6am Aibu ?

OP posts:
Llamacorn · 14/02/2017 03:57

You've got work in 2 hours, dp has a day off tomorrow and you're still up settling the dc? YANBU - I'd be annoyed.

SmallBee · 14/02/2017 03:58

If you split them into shifts and this is yours then YABU.
However if you feel that the current shift system isn't fair or working YANBU to change it.
Does DH look after your DC when he is off? Because he'll still need some sleep to do that.

MrsTerryPratchett · 14/02/2017 04:00

What are the two shifts?

Popskipiekin · 14/02/2017 04:47

Yes what are the two shifts and do you always stick to the same shifts irrespective of who is going into work the next day? (Appreciating that a SAHP is going to need some sleep, absolutely! But depending on age of child they might be able to have a nap during the day which WOHP won't be able to)

Anotherdayanotherscreenname · 14/02/2017 05:19

Sounds like a turn taking system which doesn't work.

WilburIsSomePig · 14/02/2017 06:21

You keep getting 'sent back'? Hmm

Your turn taking system is not working at all.

Trifleorbust · 14/02/2017 07:13

'Sent back'? You're not at school. Hmm

Huldra · 14/02/2017 07:24

We're you meant to have done the first shift but he's not taking his later one because he's dissatisfied with how you handled the first part if the night?

Huldra · 14/02/2017 07:24

Were, not we're.

Chloe84 · 14/02/2017 07:26

It sounds like it's his shift now but he thinks you haven't been settling them well in your shift so he keeps 'sending you back'?

If that's right, then he's a chancing, lazy, selfish twatface.

KateDaniels2 · 14/02/2017 07:38

Whats the system. Our system was dh did the first half of the night and i did the second. I would rather do that because i like an early night and naturally wake yo early. Dh prefers going to bed late. Worked for us.

We did this regardless of who was working. It worked for us. But if your system isnt working for you tweak it

Anotherdayanotherscreenname · 14/02/2017 10:05

Can I also ask - ready for the flames... did you settle them properly or were you chancing it because it was his turn next?

(Asking for a friend.)

Gileswithachainsaw · 14/02/2017 10:12

What are the "shifts"

How old is the baby.

Is he chancing it cos he feels you didn't do good enough job?

Are you chancing it til it's his turn?

What exactly is the set up

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