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JenniferYellowHat1980 · 13/02/2017 21:37

In the interests of balance I think it only fair that there's one of these now and again.

Today MIL has sent a beautiful fruit cake from a National Trust book we got her a while ago.

It gets better though. She has very kindly offered to pick the DCs up from school three days a week with no strings so that I can work full time and we can get ourselves financially sorted.

She's a gem. My beloved DM died last year but my MIL's and DSM's kindness make life that but more bearable.

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PyongyangKipperbang · 13/02/2017 22:47

Its like relationships. No one bothers to go online to post how lovely and thoughtful and kind their husbands are and how he never puts a foot wrong. And if we did, who would read those threads?!

The same way that there are always far more negative reviews about goods/services etc online than there are good ones, because we are often only moved to comment when things have been shit!

So while I do sympathise greatly on bitch MIL threads, having suffered myself, I also keep in mind that for every out and out cow, there will be scores that are kind and loving and nice :)

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TheMythOfFingerprints · 13/02/2017 23:01

About 2 years ago when mil and sfil were visiting, dh walked in the kitchen to find mil bent double with laughter and me actually on the floor with tears running down my face and in real danger of wetting myself.

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IrnBruTortie · 13/02/2017 23:09

This thread is lovely. I don't have a mil (both DH's parents had died before I met him), but she sounds like she was a wonderful woman. We're fairly LC with my mum, I worry about how I'll be if my DC marry as I have no realy rolemodel / a fairly low benchmark... I'll do my best though.

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RustyPaperclip · 13/02/2017 23:13

Your MIL sounds lovely. I sadly don't have a relationship with mine but it is nice to hear a positive MIL story for once. Luckily I have an amazing FIL

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chatnanny · 13/02/2017 23:13

I loved mine too, she was warm and funny and like a friend to me. Now that I'm a MIL I try to be the same. We do get a bad press so it's uplifting to read your story OP.

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girlelephant · 13/02/2017 23:14

She sounds great!

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LittlePaintBox · 13/02/2017 23:30

My MIL and I were like chalk and cheese, she was a devoted granny and it's only since she died that I've appreciated how grear it was for them to have her in their lives.

I really do wish I'd made the effort to be more appreciative when she was around.

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myshinynewusername · 13/02/2017 23:33

My exs parents are wonderful. Its my own mother I can't stand.

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Enko · 13/02/2017 23:38

I love my MIL she has been a real gem in the 22 years I have known her. She is very frail now (will be 90 this year) and now its pay back time. We go to see her twice a week and get shopping etc. I will miss her dearly when she passes.

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ohfourfoxache · 14/02/2017 00:03

Reading these has given me the most awful pangs of pure jealousy

Please, from someone who has tried for 17 years to build any form of relationship with her ILs, please please make sure that you don't take your wonderful ILs for granted. Let them know how loved and appreciated they are.