To be a bit disappointed?

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Just found a bunch of roses in utility room, wedged in a jug between mounds of laundry, cat bowls and recycling. Presumably for me tho DH hasn't mentioned anything. He rarely buys me flowers, this will be the third time in 12 years.
They're still in cellophane with price on and they look past their best. Bit wilted and curly with blackened edges. I wasn't expecting anything at all so AIBU to feel a bit disappointed by them?
To his credit we are having a shit time at the mo. As a couple I think(!) we're ok but two DC (aged 2 and baby) takes its toll and also major house issues taking up loads of time and energy. He has a long daily commute 3 hours on average and high expectations in his job so I should just smile and thank him, right? He made the effort to stop on his way home and get them.
I just wish my life had a bit more panache. I often feel like this is a dream and I'm actually off working my way around the world like I was supposed to once upon a time. The wilted roses jammed in amongst the daily drudgery epitomises my life uncannily. Like it was almost something romantic and special but just missed the mark. Am I being precious? (And a dick?)

What have you got him?

I guess he's trying to make a valentine effort.
You can at least practice trying to look pleased now?

Valentines is not the day for parents of young kids imo. Everyday is a struggle with nursery costing us all our money. A hot cup of tea, dinner cooked, doing the night shift, a deep cleaned bathroom- real teamwork day in day out, mean so much more to me than flowers or chocolates ever could.

Depends what you got him really. Did you put a lot of effort into a thoughtful gift or did you get him a chocolate orange at sainsbos?

Agent as if I'd give away a choc orange

I feel a bit sorry for him tbh but I get where you're coming from. Have you bought him anything?

Well I've got steak to make a nice meal tmrw night, his fave beers in the fridge and season tickets for his footy team

Season tickets!??

I didn't mean the post in a totally serious "wringing of hands at how awful my life is" kind of way, we have two beautiful children and we get on well which I guess is pretty good at this moment in time. On reflection IABU. I think he just expected his life to be this and I didn't. But hey, no one forced me and the grass probably isn't that green anyway...

I'm kidding RJ.

Bloody hell a token gift for a commercialised day is one thing- a season ticket?

season ticket?? How much was that?

Ohhh! I did think it was a bit - I'd have been peed at two day old roses too 😬

Ah bless him, I've taken my disappointment out on MN (again) so I shall smile and thank him. And I'll make him some fake season tickets so he can join me in the feeling of something that could have been special but missed the mark

Sounds like he bought them a week ago while he still remembered and put them there and forgot them. Never mind, the thought was in there somewhere. Eventually you will regain some couple time

I get you op, life with tiny children and long days can be dull and relentless.
He got you roses, that's nice, you have steak for tomorrow that's nice too.
Can you get the children to sleep early and share a bottle of fizz and a good film tomorrow night?
It's hard to remember you are both still you among the nappies and broken nights.
Think you're having a 'is this it' moment.

I'd be more worried if he didn't present you with them tomorrow!

Awww I feel like he was probably really pleased with himself...go on lighten up and remember he thought of you. That in itself is priceless.

But he probably won't! He'll find them, shit himself that they are crumpled and crunchy, chuck them and get something else on the way home tomorrow night!

Or maybe he buys you flowers every year and hides them and has to chuck them!

MyArse & Patchouli